Youth & educationFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 7, 2025.
Children learn best from parents' example
“People are in need of good actions before the beautiful words.”
In one sentence
Parents cultivate righteous children through wise, continuous guidance grounded in their own consistent example, following Luqman and the Prophet.
The khutbah in 2 steps
- Upbringing requires wisdom, continuity, and compassionate conversations throughout childhood.
- Hypocrisy undermines instructions about prayer, morality, and modesty.
Try this week
Maintain ongoing, gentle conversations with children throughout their young years.
Correct your own behavior before demanding improvement from your children.
Model prayer, honesty, modesty, kindness, tolerance, forgiveness, and charity through daily conduct.
Ensure your actions agree with the moral instruction you give.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Rather, upbringing is a continuous, practical process. It builds up over time through numerous discussions. It progresses with gentle, compassionate input from parents throughout the young years of the child.”
“Because people need to have a good role model before the good sermon. People are in need of good actions before the beautiful words.”
“If we want to teach our children to fix their ways, then start first by fixing our own ways.”
“One well-behaved person can have an effect on a thousand men. While if a thousand men talk to one person, and yet their deeds disagree with their words, then all those words will have no effect.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that raising children well takes wisdom, patience, and steady attention. Parents should guide children through gentle conversations over many years, not only through occasional commands. Most importantly, children learn from what parents do, so parents should improve themselves before demanding change from their children. The Prophet’s honesty, kindness, modesty, charity, tolerance, and forgiveness are offered as qualities to imitate. When our actions match our words, our advice becomes much more powerful.
- What is one good quality you have learned by watching someone in our family?
- Why do actions sometimes teach more strongly than words?
- What is one habit our family could practice together this week?
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