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Patience & trialsFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 28, 2025.

Patience begins at the first shock of grief

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“Patience is becoming only at the first stroke of grief.”

The khateeb, at 2:47

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In one sentence

True patience in grief is shown at the first shock of calamity: mourners may shed natural tears, but they should keep their words and conduct pleasing to Allah and understand that responsibility depends on the specific circumstances.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Introduces the hadith of a woman grieving at a grave and the Prophet’s counsel to fear Allah and be patient.
  2. Explains that patience is tested at the first shock of loss, using grief and the diamond-forming analogy.
  3. Uses the Prophet’s own grief to distinguish natural tears from speech and conduct that displease Allah.
  4. Clarifies that the warning about the deceased being punished for family mourning does not apply universally.
  5. Concludes that crying is permissible, while patience is required when calamity first strikes.
Try this week
Practice patience immediately when calamity first strikes.
Allow natural tears while avoiding wailing and words that displease Allah.
Do not assume someone is responsible for another person’s mourning or sin without considering the specific circumstances.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariThe Prophet teaches that true patience appears at the first stroke of grief.
Sahih MuslimA related narration identifies the grave as the woman’s son’s grave, emphasizing the weight of parental loss.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Patience is becoming only at the first stroke of grief”
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“It's a time of calamity and hardship that when you know people around you and even you know yourself this is the test”
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“But does not mean apply for every case. Because Allah will never punish you of other person's sin.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today’s khutbah teaches that grief is real, and crying after a loss is not a failure of faith. The Prophet taught that true patience appears at the first shock of sorrow, when a person is most tested. The speaker also reminded us that natural tears are different from wailing or words that displease Allah, and that we should not blame people for sins they did not cause. When someone is grieving, we can offer gentle support while encouraging patience and trust in Allah. Hardship can reveal and strengthen our character, like rough carbon becoming a diamond.

  1. When have you seen someone show patience during a hard moment?
  2. Why do you think the speaker compared hardship to a diamond being formed?
  3. How can we support someone who is sad without telling them not to cry?
Where it was given

The masjid

London Muslim Mosque151 Oxford St W, London, ON N6H 1S3Jumu'ah First prayer 12:00 PM · second prayer 1:15 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at London Muslim Mosque193 khutbahs
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