Youth & educationFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 15, 2026.
Raise children with standards and warmth
“I have very high expectations of you and I'm completely in your corner to help you get there.”
The khutbah in 7 steps
- Back-to-school concerns prompt reflection on children’s tarbiyah.
- The enforcer, protector, and mentor mindsets contrast control, overprotection, and balanced support.
- The Prophet’s presence and lived examples made spiritual lessons meaningful.
- High standards should be paired with warmth, support, and personal example.
- Shortcomings should be addressed directly without public humiliation or shame.
- Parents should cultivate excellence, prayer, character, leadership, and love for Allah, His Messenger, and Islam.
- The khutbah closes with three takeaways: be present, uphold loving standards, and pursue excellence.
Try this week
Be present through daily conversations, shared drives, dinners, and screen-free time.
Maintain high standards while offering warmth, compassion, and concrete help.
Wake children for Fajr, pray with them, and ensure they establish salah.
Ask children about their prayer, character, kindness, honor, and integrity.
Encourage excellence and high aspirations while teaching humility and reliance on Allah.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 3:164Presented the Prophet’s mission as recitation, purification, and teaching scripture and wisdom.
Surah 5Used the companions’ excesses to emphasize respecting Allah’s lawful boundaries.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“There's a middle path He labels it The mentor mindset He says High standards And high support The adult says I have very high expectations of you And I'm completely in your corner To help you get there”
“Some of our teachers and people have said that it's better to have 100 one-minute conversations than one 100-minute conversation”
“We don't want to raise people who are academically brilliant But have no character, no morals, no values”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
With school beginning, the khutbah reminds us that raising children is not only about grades but also about faith, character, and preparation for this life and the next. The Prophet Muhammad modeled a balanced way: stay close and present, keep meaningful standards, and offer warmth and help as children grow. We can build this relationship through small daily conversations, shared meals and drives, screen-free time, prayer, and asking about salah, kindness, and character. Our hope is to help children love Allah, His Messenger, and Islam while striving for excellence with humility.
- When has someone helped you meet a high standard instead of simply criticizing you?
- Which matters of character, kindness, or prayer do you want to strengthen this week?
Where it was given
The masjids
Islamic Center of Naperville, 75th Street Masjid25W530 75th St, Naperville, IL 60565Jumu'ah 1st Khutbah 1:10 PM · 2nd Khutbah 2:10 PMIslamic Center of Naperville, Masjid Al-Hidayah (Olesen)450 Olesen Drive, Naperville, IL 60540Jumu'ah Khutbah 1:10 PM (one congregation)Islamic Center of Naperville, Masjid Al-Hilal (Ogden)2844 W. Ogden Ave, Naperville, IL 60540Jumu'ah 1st Khutbah 1:10 PM · 2nd Khutbah 2:20 PMIslamic Center of Naperville, Masjid An-Noor (248th)3540 248th Ave, Naperville, IL 60564Jumu'ah 1st Khutbah 1:10 PM · 2nd Khutbah 2:20 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at ICN 75th9 khutbahs
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