7:09 if you are not happy,…14:32 the main criteria is…18:28 if they question you…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 10, 2026.

Marriage needs willingness, deen, and character

Masjid Al-Ikhlaas

“The main criteria is what is pleasing to you and what is pleasing to her.”

The khateeb, at 14:32

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In one sentence

An ideal Muslim marriage begins with mutual willingness and prioritizes deen and character, then grows through honesty, mercy, sincere support, and responsibility within the home.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Frames respect for the Prophet’s hadith and the Qur’an, presenting the khutbah as a reminder.
  2. Argues that spouses should be chosen through mutual willingness and compatibility, not imposed family preferences.
  3. Reviews wealth, lineage, beauty, and religion, prioritizing deen and character.
  4. Urges honest, bounded due diligence about prospective spouses while rejecting lies, nosiness, and assumptions based on parents.
  5. Explains marriage as shared residence, tranquility, love, and mercy, encouraging reconciliation when these are missing.
  6. Uses Khadijah and Umm Salama as examples of spousal encouragement and sincere counsel.
  7. Closes with dua, prayer, and announcements for children’s seerah activities and youth sports.
Try this week
Choose a spouse who is genuinely pleasing to both people, while prioritizing deen and character.
When asked directly about a prospective spouse, give honest firsthand feedback; say you do not know when you are unsure.
Do your own due diligence instead of judging someone solely by their parents’ religiosity or reputation.
Seek ways to reconcile when tranquility, love, or mercy are missing from the relationship.
Support a spouse through hardship and accept sincere advice from them.
Recite the dua asking Allah to make spouses and children a comfort to the eyes.
Register children ages 7, 13 for the seerah card activity and contact the imam about youth sports participation.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 49Used to argue for reverence toward the Prophet’s words and hadith.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“if you are not happy, if you are not pleased, then you should not go, and you should not even move, even one step after that.”
Masjid Al-Ikhlaas · Hopkinton, MA
Play from 7:09
“the main criteria is what is pleasing to you and what is pleasing to her”
Masjid Al-Ikhlaas · Hopkinton, MA
Play from 14:32
“if they question you do you know the girl does she put hijab is she modest”
Masjid Al-Ikhlaas · Hopkinton, MA
Play from 18:28
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that marriage should begin with genuine willingness from both people. While wealth, family, beauty, and education may matter, faith and character should receive the greatest attention. Families should investigate honestly when asked, but avoid gossip, assumptions, and judging children only by their parents. A healthy marriage creates a home of tranquility, love, and mercy, where spouses support one another, accept sincere advice, and remember that marriage is a gift with responsibilities.

  1. What makes a home feel peaceful and welcoming?
  2. Why is it important to say “I don’t know” instead of guessing about someone?
  3. How can you support a family member who is having a difficult day?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid Al-Ikhlaas (Islamic Society of Greater Milford)2 West Elm St, Hopkinton, MA 01748Jumu'ah 1:00 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at Masjid Al-Ikhlaas33 khutbahs
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