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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 3, 2025.

Family ties are a duty, not a choice

Al Falah · Yousef Bakeer

“Severing the ties of kinship, my dear brothers and sisters, is a grave mistake.”

The khateeb, at 4:13

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In one sentence

Believers should repair and maintain family ties, while trusting Allah and taking practical action against anxiety, laziness, fear, stinginess, and debt.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Establishes maintaining kinship as a religious duty and warns against prolonged estrangement.
  2. Explains the rights of parents, siblings, grandparents, and other relatives, including when disagreements are worldly.
  3. Urges humility, forgiveness, communication, and prioritizing family members in charitable support.
  4. Introduces a Prophetic dua for anxiety, sadness, incapacity, laziness, fear, stinginess, debt, and oppression.
  5. Explains past-focused sadness, future-focused anxiety, and the importance of focusing on controllable actions.
  6. Calls for courage, productivity, generosity, and reliance on Allah alongside personal effort.
Try this week
Contact a relative you have stopped speaking with and reopen communication.
Ask family members whether they need help, and prioritize relatives in charitable support.
Forgive unresolved wrongs and take initiative to repair family ties.
Recite the Prophetic dua morning and evening while reflecting on each condition it names.
Separate desired outcomes from controllable steps, then act instead of remaining paralyzed by fear or laziness.
Share blessings through generosity and care for others, including orphans.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 93Used to connect gratitude for Allah's blessings with caring for orphans and serving others.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“severing the ties of kinship my dear brothers and sisters is a grave mistake.”
Al Falah · Bridgewater, NJ
Play from 4:13
“Go after those who you feel have taken your rights or you feel you have taken their rights and resolve these issues for the reward in doing so is immense.”
Al Falah · Bridgewater, NJ
Play from 12:11
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that family relationships are responsibilities entrusted to us by Allah. Even when relatives hurt us or disagree with us, we should try to reopen communication, forgive, and maintain respect, especially toward parents. The khateeb also explained a Prophetic dua for anxiety, sadness, weakness, fear, laziness, stinginess, debt, and feeling overpowered. Trusting Allah means focusing on the actions within our control while leaving the results to Him. When Allah gives us blessings, we should show gratitude by sharing good and helping others.

  1. Who could we check on this week in our extended family?
  2. What is one small action within your control when you feel worried?
  3. How can we share one blessing with someone else?
Where it was given

The masjid

Al Falah Center881 Route 206, Bridgewater, NJ 08807Jumu'ah 1:00 PMKhateebYousef BakeerMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at Al Falah42 khutbahs
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