Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 15, 2025.
Generosity strengthens marriage and family life
“Most of the talak happens because of this money.”
In one sentence
Marriage and divorce require financial responsibility and emotional generosity, because stinginess and neglect damage families while care, communication, and provision strengthen them.
The khutbah in 7 steps
- Establishes the husband's duty to provide for his wife and children, including after divorce and during pregnancy.
- Warns that financial stinginess reflects weak trust in Allah and harms spouses and children.
- Explains that support should match the husband's means, while a wife's earnings remain hers unless she freely contributes.
- Criticizes scorekeeping and forced fifty-fifty household finances as causes of marital conflict.
- Addresses emotional stinginess through kind words, conversation, gratitude, attention, affection, and gifts.
- Warns that emotional neglect can lead to forbidden relationships or divorce, and urges generosity within families.
- Closes with praise of prophetic generosity, prayers, Quran recitation, and a brief hacker-call warning.
Try this week
Provide a spouse and children with basic food, drink, medicine, housing, and other needs according to available means.
If a husband withholds basic support, seek help from a judge, imam, or trusted adviser; the speaker relayed taking only what reasonably suffices if necessary.
Do not pressure a working wife to spend her income on the household or insist on rigid fifty-fifty accounting.
Say kind words, express gratitude, greet one another, ask about the day's experience, and acknowledge meals and other acts of service.
Give a spouse time and attention, put away the phone, and offer small gifts such as flowers or chocolate.
Avoid emotionally neglecting a spouse and avoid forbidden romantic or sexual conversations outside the marriage.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“the best money that you spend the money you spend on your your kids it's wajib on you at least to spend the basics food drink the the medicine the house”
“most of the talak happens because of this money this is my money this is your money”
“the muslim should take care of his his family spending on your family this is wajib it's wajib on us to spend on our family”
“be generous the ladies they love the person who is generous spending on her and her kids and also don't let your kids to wish your death”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that caring for a family is a religious responsibility, especially providing basic needs. A husband remains responsible for his children's support even after divorce, and a wife's earnings are hers unless she freely chooses to contribute. The speaker also says marriage needs emotional generosity through kind words, conversation, gratitude, time, and small gifts. When money or affection is withheld, resentment can grow, so spouses should care for one another and avoid forbidden relationships.
- What is one way we can show generosity this week besides giving money?
- Why might keeping score hurt a family?
- What helps people feel noticed and cared for at home?
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