Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jun 27, 2026.
A true Muslim keeps others safe
“Your spouse is a part of you.”
In one sentence
A true Muslim, especially a husband, must make other Muslims safe from his tongue and his hand, and marriage is a covenant that demands gentle speech, physical restraint, and God-consciousness at home as well as in public.
The khutbah in 7 steps
- The true Muslim is defined as one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe.
- The story of the man who killed one hundred souls illustrates that true hijrah means leaving the environment of sin.
- The tongue is mentioned before the hand because verbal harm, backbiting, lying, cursing, and harmful social media, is the easiest transgression.
- Marriage is a covenant made in Allah's name, yet many Muslims display piety in public while becoming harsh at home.
- The Prophet never struck women, servants, or animals, and Islam prohibits striking the face.
- Allah condemns harming innocent believers, and husbands owe wives food, clothing, respectful speech, and the option of reconciliation.
- Every word and every blow will be questioned on the Day of Judgment, so believers must fear Allah more than legal consequences.
Try this week
Guard your tongue from backbiting, lying, cursing, and harmful online comments.
Leave environments and habits that encourage sin.
Speak kindly to your spouse; do not curse, humiliate, or make dua against her.
Do not strike your wife, and never strike the face.
Provide food and clothing for your wife when you provide for yourself.
If upset with your spouse, keep the conflict inside the home to allow reconciliation.
Model respectful marriage for your children so they learn Islam by example.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariThe Prophet defined the true Muslim as the one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe.
Sahih al-BukhariThe story of the man who killed ninety-nine souls and then one hundred, used to show that repentance requires leaving the sinful environment.
Surah 33Those who harm believing men and women undeservedly have borne slander and manifest sin; the speaker attributed it generally to Allah's speech.
Sahih MuslimThe Prophet never struck anything with his hand except in jihad, establishing the standard of gentleness toward wives, servants, and animals.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The true Muslim, the Muslim is the one that Muslims are safe from his tongue and his hand.”
“He never hit anything with his hand. He didn't hit a woman. He didn't hit a servant.”
“Your spouse is a part of you. So you have to take care of her, right?”
“The good words, the good things that we say, the good relationship that we set is actually gonna be the greatest investment for ourselves and for our children.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminded us that a true Muslim protects others from harm caused by the tongue and the hand. Hijrah can mean leaving sinful habits and harmful influences for Allah, even without moving to a new place. The khateeb especially emphasized gentleness, respect, and responsibility within marriage and warned against harsh words, humiliation, and physical harm. He reminded parents that children learn about relationships by watching how adults treat one another. We can take this message home by speaking kindly, practicing forgiveness, and making our homes places of safety and mercy.
- What is one way we can make our words safer for people this week?
- What habit or influence might we need to leave behind for Allah?
- How can our family show more patience and kindness at home?
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