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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Marriage should bring peace and reassurance

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“Will he or she make me peaceful?”

The khateeb, at 4:19

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In one sentence

Marriage should be a relationship in which spouses bring each other peace, reassurance, respect, and strength, following the example of Muhammad and Khadijah.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Asks why people marry and acknowledges several valid reasons.
  2. Uses the Qur'anic concept of spouses as a divine sign and explains taskunu as peace.
  3. Retells the Prophet's fear during the first revelation in the Cave of Hira.
  4. Shows how Khadijah comforted him by reassuring him and naming his virtues.
  5. Highlights their sacrifice, loyalty, respect, listening, and mutual support through persecution.
  6. Applies the lesson through consistent compliments, reassurance, and becoming a source of calm, then closes with prayers.
Try this week
When considering marriage, ask whether a prospective spouse brings calm and peace.
Ask yourself whether you are a source of peace and calm for your spouse.
Compliment your spouse consistently, not only on special occasions.
Reassure a vulnerable spouse by naming their good qualities, listening, respecting their family, and gently addressing negatives.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 24Used to present spouses as Allah's sign and marriage as a source of tranquility, mercy, and compassion.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Does he or she make me calm? Will he or she make me peaceful?”
ICCP · Potomac, MD
Play from 4:19
“She accepted me when everyone rejected me. She believed in me when everyone doubted me.”
ICCP · Potomac, MD
Play from 19:35
“Am I the source of peace and calm for my spouse?”
ICCP · Potomac, MD
Play from 21:47
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today’s khutbah reminded us that a central purpose of marriage is to find peace and help one another feel calm. The khateeb described how Khadija comforted the Prophet when he returned frightened after the first revelation, then reassured him by naming the good she knew in him. He encouraged spouses to notice each other’s strengths and offer compliments consistently. He also described Khadija’s support through hardship and the Prophet’s continuing love for her after she died. As a family, we can practice these lessons by listening carefully, speaking kindly, and helping one another feel supported.

  1. What helps you feel comforted when you come home upset or worried?
  2. What is one good quality you have noticed in someone at this table, and when did you see it?
  3. How could you help make our home more peaceful this week?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Community Center of Potomac10601 River Rd, Potomac, MD 20854Jumu'ah Adhan 1:15 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at ICCP96 khutbahs
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