Strong families raise children for Allah
“When there is no stability at home.”
Strong Muslim families, built on honoring both blood and marital kinship ties and on marriages rooted in tranquility (sakinah), love (mawaddah), and mercy (rahmah), are the foundation for raising children fit to be Allah's khalifah on earth.
The khutbah in 8 steps
- Four cases of human creation, with Isa (Jesus) as the unique case of a mother without a father
- Preparing future khalifah begins with how spouses choose one another as parents of their children
- Distinct roles of mother and father in the household, and the Quran's honoring of women (Surah an-Nisa, Surah Maryam)
- Two types of relatives: blood ties (arhama) you did not choose, and relatives through the marriage contract you chose
- The obligation to maintain kinship ties and the curse on those who sever them, even if they pray, fast, and pay zakah
- Marriage as sakinah (tranquility), mawaddah (love), and rahmah (mercy) from Surah ar-Rum
- How parental conflict and divorce wound children, and the prohibition of retaliating through the children
- Teaching children according to their stage of mental and physical development, following the Prophet's example
In the khateeb's words
“the patient Allah will reward them without accountability what does He mean without accountability it means He will give them He will give them something infinite because they were patient”
“Because you are second, you are place of rest, of tranquility. If the marriage is not like this, it is not successful. If you wish to go away from your spouse, that marriage is not successful.”
“When there is no stability at home. When there is fight all the time. Between spouse. The children will be seeing something. Breaking their heart. Breaking their feelings.”
For the dinner table
Today's khutbah was about building strong Muslim families. The khateeb explained that Allah gave us two kinds of relatives: blood family we did not choose, and in-laws we chose through marriage, and both have rights over us that we must honor. He warned that cutting off family is so serious that even prayer and charity cannot save a person from Allah's curse. He then described marriage using Allah's words, a place of tranquility, filled with love in the early years and mercy in old age. When parents fight constantly or use children against each other after divorce, the children's hearts break and they cannot grow into the strong people Allah wants them to be. He closed by reminding us that the Prophet taught each child according to their age and understanding, and we should do the same.
- Who in our family could we reach out to this week just to keep the connection strong?
- What makes our home feel peaceful, and what makes it feel stressful?
- Why do you think Allah cares so much about whether we stay close to our relatives?
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