Reconciliation matters more than winning
“The best of the two is the one who initiates peace.”
Ramadan should be used to repair strained relationships and actively reconcile people, because peace-making pleases Allah and can be more valuable than individual acts of worship or winning a dispute.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Ramadan is a time to repair both our relationship with Allah and our social relationships.
- The Quran's guidance on private councils highlights discreet charity, gentle reminders, and reconciliation.
- Prophetic teachings and examples present reconciliation as a deed that pleases Allah and protects faith, families, and communities.
- Listeners are urged to resolve conflicts quickly, initiate peace, and choose reconciliation over victory.
- Announcements invite guests and volunteers for an interfaith dinner, followed by Ramadan prayers and supplications.
In the khateeb's words
“mending broken relationships is better than prayers than fasting and than charity see when you think of broken relationships and they just think about two people imagine two countries millions of people are at risk of a war breaking out”
“if there is a discord between you and your wife fix it fix it”
“the best of the two is the one who initiates peace one who initiates peace we want to be a community that is aware that sometimes we do have issues but the idea is not to win the idea is to reconcile”
For the dinner table
Ramadan is a chance to strengthen our relationship with Allah and repair the relationships we have with people around us. The khateeb reminded us that reconciliation can be more valuable than winning, because it can protect families, communities, and even lives. We should take the first step toward peace, speak privately and gently when appropriate, and refuse to let pride keep us apart for years. This week, we can call someone, make peace, and bring a patient, positive attitude to any conversation.
- Who could you make peace with this week?
- What does choosing reconciliation over victory look like at home?
- How can we help someone privately without embarrassing them?
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