Community & unityFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 3, 2026.
How to disagree without hostility
“The question is how do we disagree without destroying our relationships and our communities?”
In one sentence
Disagreement is inevitable, but Muslims must prevent it from becoming hostile dispute by seeking truth over victory, controlling anger, using respectful manners, and deferring to qualified knowledge.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Disagreement is unavoidable, but hostility can destroy relationships and communal strength.
- The Quran distinguishes ordinary disagreement from hateful, hostile dispute and commands patience and good character.
- Listeners should ask whether they want the truth or merely to win, and stop arguing for argument’s sake.
- Anger should be controlled through practical steps, because true strength is self-mastery.
- People should avoid speaking without knowledge, consult qualified experts, and preserve brotherhood despite differences.
Try this week
Pause and stop arguing when discussion begins producing hatred.
Ask whether you want truth or simply to win.
Do not speak confidently about matters you have not studied; ask qualified people instead.
Give charity in the path of Allah.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“the question is not how do we stop people from disagreeing the question is how do we disagree without destroying our relationships and our communities that is the question”
“do I want the truth or do I want to win do I want the truth or do I want to win”
“the strong individual is the one who can control his anger is the one who can control himself when he gets angry that's the strong individual”
Where it was given
The masjid
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