Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, May 27, 2026.
Fathers must prepare daughters for marriage
“If you like a guy and you're interested in marrying him, you can come to us anytime.”
In one sentence
The khutbah teaches that believers should use the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah for intensified worship and that fathers must proactively prepare daughters for healthy marriage through safe dialogue, boundaries, education, and a loving example.
The khutbah in 8 steps
- Urges believers to honor the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah through repentance, obligations, and extra worship.
- Explains the virtues of Quran, remembrance, the Day of Arafah, its fast, and Eid al-Adha.
- Uses Abu Bakr's honesty and unexpected marriage as a story about integrity and divine planning.
- Defines marriage through tranquility, affection, and mercy, then calls fathers trusted mentors from childhood onward.
- Encourages early conversations about love, marriage, mistakes, and emotional safety instead of leaving children to media.
- Teaches middle and high school daughters the PPL boundaries: public, purposeful, and limited interaction.
- Gives college-age guidance: invite daughters to seek help, clarify deal-breakers, use research-Islam-real-life checks, and involve the wali.
- Closes by urging premarital education, healthy parental modeling, repair after mistakes, and renewed family commitment.
Try this week
Repent, avoid sins, fulfill obligations, and increase worship during the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah.
Pray the five daily prayers on time and increase Quran reading, takbeer, tahleel, tahmeed, salawat, and voluntary worship.
Fast the Day of Arafah if not performing Hajj.
Become a trusted, nonjudgmental mentor who makes daughters feel safe discussing mistakes and relationships.
Begin conversations about love, marriage, and lifelong commitment during elementary school years.
Teach middle and high school daughters to keep interactions public, purposeful, and limited, including online interactions.
Tell a college-age daughter that she can approach her parents whenever she likes someone and is considering marriage.
Discuss future spouse deal-makers and deal-breakers, provide premarital education, and participate actively as her wali.
Model love, mercy, patience, and repair within marriage, and renew family commitments after mistakes.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 89Supports the special status of the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah.
Sahih al-BukhariArgues that righteous deeds during these days surpass deeds performed at other times, with one exception.
Musnad AhmadSupports increasing remembrance during the first ten days.
Quran 5:3Explains that the religion was completed on the Day of Arafah.
Sahih MuslimSupports seeking forgiveness and freedom from the Fire on Arafah.
Sahih MuslimEncourages fasting Arafah to expiate the previous and following year.
Sahih al-BukhariExplains the centrality of the Day of Sacrifice and its major rites.
Quran 30:21Defines marriage through tranquility, affection, and mercy.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Your job is to be a parent, but a parent who is a trusted mentor, that she will come to you when she gets in trouble.”
“Just so you know, if you like a guy and you're interested in marrying him, you can come to us anytime.”
“So go back to your family. Come back to your family. Renew that commitment. That is my message for you. Because your daughter needs to hear this from you.”
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