Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jul 11, 2026.
A husband's success is how he treats his wife
“Your success is not measured by your salary.”
In one sentence
A righteous wife is one of life's greatest blessings, and a husband's true success is measured by how he honors, serves, and treats her with kindness, patience, and mercy, following the example of the Prophet Muhammad.
The khutbah in 7 steps
- Opening Quranic verses establish taqwa and the divine purpose of marriage as tranquility, love, and mercy
- True success is not wealth or status but how a man treats his wife and family, especially when unseen
- The Prophet's example: he served his family at home and remained loyal and grateful to Khadija
- Kind companionship is a command even during disagreement; do not fixate on faults while forgetting favors
- Modern marriages are harmed by distraction, impatience, and taking wives for granted
- A righteous wife is the best worldly enjoyment and a sacred trust for which husbands will be questioned
- Return home with gentleness, gratitude, apology, and the intention to make the home a place of faith and mercy
Try this week
Put away your phone and look into your wife's eyes rather than the screen
Speak gently to your wife instead of raising your voice
Listen to her patiently and learn her worries
Apologize if you have wronged her
Thank your wife for her sacrifices while she is alive
Overlook minor mistakes and focus on her good qualities
Serve and help your wife and family without pride
Teach your children that strength is shown through mercy, not harshness
Return home today with the intention to make it a home of faith and mercy
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 4used to command living with wives in kindness even when one dislikes something, since Allah may place much good in it
Surah 30used to show marriage is a sign of Allah created for tranquility, love, and mercy
Jami` at-Tirmidhiused to redefine success: the best of men are those best to their families
Sahih al-Bukhariused to show the Prophet served his family at home, so humility in serving one's wife is sunnah
Sahih Muslimused to counsel husbands not to hate a believing wife but to appreciate her other good traits
Sahih al-Bukhariused to establish treating women well as a binding command, not mere advice
Sahih Muslimused to frame wives as a trust from Allah, not possessions to humiliate or degrade
Sahih al-Bukhariused to warn husbands that the supplication of an oppressed wife has no barrier before Allah
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“your success is not measured by your salary is not measured by your repetition or your status rather is measured how are you with your wife and children how are you when no one except Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sees you”
“many marriages today are destroyed not because there is no love but because there is no patience not because there is no provision but because there is no mercy not because there is no blessing but people remember faults and forget favors”
“do not let your children learn the sunnah from a book only let them see it in your smile let them hear it in your words let them witness it in the way you honor their mother”
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