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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 29, 2026.

True love puts Allah above all else

ICC · Hassan Elwan

“Love means I care about your akhira.”

The khateeb, at 9:50

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In one sentence

True love is love disciplined by devotion to Allah and His Messenger, sometimes requiring boundaries, correction, and rejecting harm even when the person or cause is beloved.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Opens with taqwa and asks whether love should be modeled on Allah and His Messenger.
  2. Distinguishes healthy love from control, self-erasure, codependence, and enabling addiction.
  3. Places love of Allah and His Messenger above spouses, children, parents, country, money, and status.
  4. Explains that faith and prayer are better signs of divine love than worldly prosperity.
  5. Presents love as a test because people change and human relationships eventually end.
  6. Uses Abu Lahab and Baraka Khan at Ain Jalut as examples of truth overcoming kinship.
  7. Closes with supplications for Allah’s love, guidance, and steadfastness.
Try this week
Do not give an addicted family member money for drugs; set firm boundaries and require rehabilitation.
Prioritize children’s prayer, good character, worship, and akhira over degrees, income, and status.
Correct loved ones gently by encouraging good and discouraging harmful behavior such as smoking.
Keep love of Allah and His Messenger above family, country, job, possessions, and personal desires.
Accept that human relationships can change or end, and anchor ultimate dependence in Allah.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“love does not mean I go along with everybody else love does not mean I give you everything you ask me love means I care about your akhira”
ICC · Pomona, CA
Play from 9:50
“If I do not center my love Around the love of Allah And His messenger I will fail that test”
ICC · Pomona, CA
Play from 13:31
“This is dependency This is over dependency That's extremely dangerous Because you're a human being You die I die”
ICC · Pomona, CA
Play from 14:22
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah taught that love is not the same as giving people everything they want or protecting them from every consequence. Real love is guided by Allah and His Messenger, so it can include saying no, setting boundaries, and encouraging prayer and good character. We should care more about a person’s faith and lasting well-being than status, money, comfort, or family loyalty. Human relationships can change or end, so our deepest dependence should be on Allah. Loving someone well means helping them toward what is right without enabling harm.

  1. When might saying no be a loving choice?
  2. What matters more than money or success in a person’s life?
  3. How can we help someone we love without enabling harmful choices?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of Claremont3641 N Garey Ave, Pomona, CA 91767KhateebHassan ElwanMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at ICC38 khutbahs
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