Parenting starts with friendship and self-control
“I've learned how to be a man just by listening to my father.”
Parents raise children well by dedicating them to Allah, building genuine friendship from an early age, modeling self-control, and protecting the family environment.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Uses Adam’s repentance and parental dua to emphasize seeking Allah’s help in parenting.
- Frames children as a trust dedicated to Allah, with parenting requiring patience, cultivation, and righteous mentors.
- Urges parents to build friendship through shared time, conversation, community, and the Prophet’s gentle example.
- Warns that uncontrolled anger damages parenting and marriage, calling for forgiveness and anger-management strategies.
- Advises delaying smartphones, carefully choosing schooling, and resolving marital conflict privately or with trusted mediation.
- Closes with prayers for peace and justice for communities affected by war, followed by the prayer call.
In the khateeb's words
“Don't worry about today Worry ten years from now Will he or she listen to you?”
“Don't only talk about your daily life Which is very helpful The old way of parenting I've learned how to be a man Just by listening to my father”
For the dinner table
The khateeb says parenting begins with turning to Allah in dua and intending our children for His service rather than making grades the measure of success. He encourages parents to treat children as people who will one day become adults and friends, building closeness through time, conversation, good mentors, and masjid community. He warns that uncontrolled anger damages marriage and parenting, so parents should learn ways to cool down and seek help when needed. He also advises delaying smartphones, guiding children through adolescence, choosing educational environments carefully, and resolving marital conflict privately or with a trusted wise mediator. He closes by praying for peace, justice, and mercy for people affected by war.
- What does being a servant of Allah look like in our family this week?
- When do you feel most listened to by a parent or sibling?
- What can we do when anger starts taking over a conversation?
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