1:57 If we do so, we'll see…3:15 But your family is my…6:17 If I hold the brother…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Fatherhood is a community responsibility

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“Your family is my family as well.”

The khateeb, at 3:15

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In one sentence

The Muslim community must confront fatherlessness honestly, support families collectively, and hold men accountable before social harms enter their homes.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Introduces a hadith warning that communities may imitate those before them step by step.
  2. Urges Muslims to study harmful social patterns before they spread into their homes.
  3. Frames fatherlessness and the erosion of fatherhood as major community problems.
  4. Calls for honest acknowledgment of these problems and reliance on Allah for help.
  5. Urges men to hold one another accountable and offer sincere advice and support.
Try this week
Acknowledge family and community problems honestly.
Ask Allah for help after recognizing the need.
Men should hold one another accountable when someone is failing as a father.
Offer struggling men support, advice, and sincerity.
Treat other families as part of the wider Muslim family.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariUsed to warn that Muslims may follow earlier communities and repeat their harmful patterns.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“If we do so, we'll see the pattern. If we do so, we may be able to save our own family.”
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“But your family is my family as well. until I see it as such until I help you as such.”
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“If I hold the brother on the street accountable, That'd give me the courage to hold myself.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khateeb asked us to notice harmful patterns around us and take responsibility for strengthening our families. He focused on the importance of fathers fulfilling their role and the struggles facing children growing up without a father at home. He reminded us that caring for families goes beyond our own household: other families in the community deserve our help too. He encouraged us to be honest about our difficulties and seek Allah's help. He also called on men to hold one another accountable and offer sincere advice, while taking responsibility for their own actions.

  1. What helps you feel comfortable asking for help when something is difficult?
  2. What does taking responsibility for people you care about look like at your age?
Where it was given

The masjid

Gary Muslim Center1473 W 15th Ave, Gary, IN 46407Jumu'ah 1:00 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at GMC10 khutbahs
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