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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Feb 3, 2026.

Marriage needs taqwa and forgiveness

Masjid ‘Eesa · Abu Ehsaan

“Your role is not to win arguments but it's to maintain the peace in your house.”

The khateeb, at 23:54

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In one sentence

A healthy, successful marriage is built through taqwa, excellent character, and reciprocal forbearance, forgiveness, and restraint.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. The khutbah opens with calls to taqwa and references marriage as part of humanity’s shared origin.
  2. Taqwa is presented as the foundation for a successful marriage.
  3. Abu Darda’s example illustrates the importance of good character and treating one’s wife well.
  4. Forbearance, compromise, overlooking faults, and de-escalating anger are presented as essential marital practices.
  5. The speaker summarizes three principles, taqwa, good character, and forgiveness, as a system for handling disagreements.
  6. The khutbah closes with supplications and congregational prayer recitations.
Try this week
Build marriage decisions around taqwa and good character.
When one spouse is angry, have the other try to please and calm them.
Restrain authoritative reactions and avoid escalating arguments.
Overlook disliked qualities while focusing on qualities appreciated in one’s spouse.
Prioritize maintaining peace in the home over winning arguments.
Practice forgiveness, compromise, and forbearance in disagreements.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 3:102Used in the opening exhortation to establish taqwa as a foundation.
Quran 4:1Used to frame spouses as originating from one human pair and to emphasize reverence for family ties.
Quran 33:70-71Used to connect truthful speech and obedience to success and forgiveness.
Quran 25:74Recited as a closing supplication for righteous spouses, children, and family leadership.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“the individual who comes forth with a proposal he needs to have two things taqwa and good character”
Masjid ‘Eesa · Hollis, NY
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“your role is not to win arguments but it's to maintain the peace in your house”
Masjid ‘Eesa · Hollis, NY
Play from 23:54
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that a strong marriage begins with taqwa, or awareness of God, and grows through good character. It reminds us that disagreements will not disappear, but patience, forgiveness, and self-restraint can help a couple handle them well. When one person is angry, the other should try to calm and please them, instead of escalating the argument. The goal is not to win every disagreement but to protect peace and care in the home. Families can strengthen their relationships by practicing these qualities in small daily moments.

  1. What does “good character” look like when someone in our family is upset?
  2. What helps us choose peace over winning an argument?
  3. Which quality, taqwa, good manners, or forgiveness, would strengthen our home this week?
Where it was given

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Masjid ‘Eesa ibn Maryam90-20 191st St, Hollis, NY 11423Jumu'ah 1:15 PMKhateebAbu EhsaanMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at Masjid ‘Eesa62 khutbahs
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