Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 15, 2026.
Parents must teach adab by example
“Our parents didn't teach us etiquette from a book; they lived it.”
In one sentence
Parents must treat the cultivation of adab, respectful, humble, God-conscious conduct, as a lifelong responsibility, teaching it through prayer and their own example rather than prioritizing only worldly achievement.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Returns to school as a reminder that parents remain responsible for their children's faith and safety.
- Uses Wahshi's later guidance to stress continuing investment in family members.
- Teaches leaving-home and morning-and-evening supplications as daily spiritual protection.
- Expands parental duties beyond material provision to adab, respect, speech, modesty, and self-control.
- Argues that home modeling matters more than elite schools or Qur'an memorization without good manners.
- Uses examples of co-parenting and a humble scholar to show how etiquette is practiced, then urges parents to study and embody it.
Try this week
Teach children the supplication for leaving home.
Recite the morning-and-evening protection supplication three times each morning and evening.
Model respectful speech, self-control, and etiquette in the home.
Read Islamic etiquette material such as Min Adab al-Islam and invite children to share reflections.
Divorced parents should not teach children to hate the other parent.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 66:6Grounded the parents' responsibility for protecting and guiding their families.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“our job is to constantly be available and constantly be investing in everyone but more so number one our own family”
“if we want to be the best teachers it may not require a certain book our parents didn't teach us etiquette from a book they lived it”
“everything else how much he's making how much he's not making will become completely insignificant if he doesn't have etiquette and if he has etiquette then subhanallah you'll be the proudest father”
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