Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 16, 2026.
Gentle parenting builds a righteous home
“We need to be friends with our kids.”
In one sentence
Parents fulfill their religious responsibility by building a righteous home and guiding children through patient, gentle, loving communication rather than anger, ego, or neglect.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- The khutbah opens with Quranic reminders about taqwa, truthful speech, and accountability before Allah.
- It presents children’s rights: choosing a righteous spouse, giving good names, and teaching children the Qur'an.
- It emphasizes family character through the examples of Yaqub with Yusuf and Luqman with his son.
- It applies the command to speak gently even to Pharaoh to parenting, urging patience and rejecting insults.
- It concludes that parents must protect their families, build trust, and make children comfortable sharing their problems.
Try this week
Choose a spouse with strong religious character.
Give children good names and teach them something from the Qur'an.
Make time for a spouse and children instead of prioritizing only work or business.
Correct children with gentle speech and patience rather than insults or humiliation.
Listen to children without interrupting and create a relationship where they can bring their problems to you.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 33Used to connect truthful, sound speech with righteous deeds and forgiveness.
Quran 31:13-19Used as an example of loving, wise advice from a parent to a child.
Quran 66:6Used to frame parents as responsible for protecting their families from the Fire.
Surah 12Used to show Yaqub listening to Yusuf and advising him with concern and love.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“success in this dunya it's not about how much materialistic things you have it's about being good to your family”
“a man has so much ego nowadays that when he walks in the house his family runs away from him not runs to him”
“put that rule to your kids put that rule to your wife how are you supposed to speak to your son when he does a mistake”
“we need to communicate in a better way we need to be friends with our kids we need to let them have come to us”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that parents are responsible for building a righteous, loving home. It says this begins with good foundations, choosing a righteous spouse, giving children good names, and teaching them Qur'an. Parents should speak gently, listen patiently, and correct children without insults or constant anger, following the examples of Yaqub, Luqman, and Musa. When children feel safe and respected, they are more likely to bring their problems to their parents and grow in faith.
- What helps you feel comfortable telling a parent about a problem?
- What does gentle correction sound like in our home?
- How can our family make more time for one another this week?
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