1:58 our Islam is not based…4:48 You are now supposed…12:10 She is under no…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Marriage requires justice and clear boundaries

Masjid Sadar · Nazimool Saheb

“She is under no obligation to obey the husband's parents.”

The khateeb, at 12:10

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In one sentence

Marriage is a solemn Islamic covenant requiring husbands to protect and respect their wives, uphold justice, and balance marital duties with filial respect without forcing wives to serve their in-laws.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Revisits marriage as a permanent obligation and the foundation of Muslim family life
  2. Explains how nikah transfers the father's protective responsibility to the husband
  3. Distinguishes a husband's duty to his wife from his duty to his parents
  4. Clarifies that a wife is not obligated to obey or serve her husband's parents
  5. Warns against cultural expectations and misuse of the husband's authority
  6. Calls families to mutual respect, clear boundaries, and justice even when relatives are wrong
Try this week
Husbands should protect, respect, and shield their wives from abuse and humiliation.
Husbands should personally care for their parents rather than forcing their wives to serve them.
Couples should set respectful boundaries when parents interfere or act unjustly.
Family members should not treat a new wife as a servant or force married children to choose sides.
Everyone should uphold justice, even when the person at fault is a parent or spouse.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“our Islam is not based on our culture and traditions, but it's based on Islamic values.”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
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“You are now supposed to be a shield to her.”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
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“She is under no obligation to obey the husband's parents.”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
Play from 12:10
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The speaker says marriage is a solemn Islamic covenant, not a trial run. A husband has a serious duty to protect, respect, and stand up for his wife while also honoring his parents. A wife may respect her husband's parents, but she is not Islamically required to obey or serve them; the husband remains responsible for his own parents. Families should follow justice and Islamic values rather than harmful cultural pressure or forced choices. The goal is mutual respect, clear boundaries, and a home where no one is treated as a servant.

  1. What does it mean to protect someone without controlling them?
  2. How can we show respect to grandparents while keeping fair boundaries?
  3. When should family traditions be reconsidered?
Where it was given

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Masjid Sadar & Community Center216 Ernston Rd, Parlin, NJ 08859Jumu'ah 1:00 PM & 1:45 PMKhateebNazimool SahebMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at Masjid Sadar69 khutbahs
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