Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 30, 2026.
Parents shape faith by example
“Our children, they see what we see.”
In one sentence
Parents shape their children's religious lives through their own example, marriage choices, prayer practices, and commitment to the Quran and Sunnah.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- The fertile-earth metaphor presents parents as the seed whose qualities shape their children.
- The example of Ibrahim shows that concern for one's descendants should remain a central responsibility.
- The speaker urges choosing a spouse by religious commitment rather than beauty, attraction, or social convenience.
- Parents are warned not to undermine Quran classes and prayer by modeling religious indifference.
- Qawama is defined as responsible leadership, guidance, and care for the family's worldly and spiritual welfare.
- The khutbah closes by warning against following personal desires instead of Allah, the Quran, and the Sunnah.
Try this week
Choose a marriage partner by deen and religious commitment rather than beauty or attraction alone.
Participate in children's Quran classes and prayers instead of waiting in the car or taking them away before salah.
Model prayer, Quran, and obedience at home so children see the practices they are being taught.
Guide and care for the family toward what benefits them in this life and the next.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Because our children, they see what we see. And they do what we do.”
“This is how it works. This should be your priority, your concern, your focus.”
“You have to think beyond that you are falling in love. This beauty will go. This attraction will go. Think beyond this.”
“Qawama doesn't mean that you follow, you have to lead.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminds us that children often grow into the atmosphere their parents create. It uses Ibrahim's tests and concern for his descendants to show that family guidance should be a lifelong priority. Parents are urged to choose marriage partners with deen in mind and to make prayer, Quran, and good conduct visible at home. The speaker describes qawama as responsible leadership and care, guiding a family toward what benefits it in this life and the next. The message ends by calling us to follow the Quran and Sunnah and ask Allah for help.
- What is one good habit our family practices that younger children may learn by watching us?
- What qualities matter most when choosing someone to marry, besides appearance?
- How can we make salah and Quran feel like a shared family practice?
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