12:49 The only true love…16:56 Maybe just checking up…
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True love serves aging parents

DarusSalam

“When his parents are older, will he now put them in a nursing home, or will he now welcome them into his own home?”

The khateeb, at 12:49

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In one sentence

True submission to Allah is shown by honoring and serving one's parents, especially when they are elderly and no longer able to provide for us.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Contrasts submission to Allah with being governed by personal desires.
  2. Explains obedience to parents as a clear expression of submission.
  3. Uses Quranic guidance to emphasize excellence, gentle speech, and service to elderly parents.
  4. Argues that genuine love appears when parents become dependent and service becomes difficult.
  5. Illustrates parental devotion through Uwais al-Qarni and narrations about serving one's mother and father.
  6. Recommends daily service, weekly calls, and studying guidance on caring for parents.
Try this week
Dedicate 15-20 minutes each day, or at least 10 minutes, to serving your parents.
If living away from them, call and check on them at least once a week.
Speak gently to parents, avoiding even expressions of irritation, especially as they age.
Study hadith, books of virtues, and the seerah for guidance on serving parents.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sunan Ibn MajahUsed narrations about serving one's mother for Jannah and the father as a middle door of Jannah.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“The only true love will show that when his parents are older, will he now put them in a nursing home, or will he now welcome them into his own home?”
DarusSalam · Lombard, IL
Play from 12:49
“Maybe just checking up on how they are. We don't know. Maybe that phone call means the world to them.”
DarusSalam · Lombard, IL
Play from 16:56
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that submitting to Allah should shape every part of life, including how we treat our parents. Parents sacrifice greatly, and the Quran commands believers to show them excellence, speak gently, and avoid even small expressions of irritation. Their old age is especially important because that is when children may feel independent and parental care becomes difficult. We can honor them through regular service, kind words, daily attention, and weekly calls when we live far away.

  1. Why might a phone call mean so much to an older parent?
  2. What does speaking gently look like when we are tired or frustrated?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid DarusSalam21W525 North Avenue, Lombard, IL 60148ArchiveAll khutbahs at DarusSalam150 khutbahs
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