Community & unityFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 1, 2025.
Believing men and women are allies
“Believing men and believing women are allies of one another.”
In one sentence
Men and women are complementary allies under Allah, not rivals, so Muslims should reject gender wars, submit to divine guidance, and work together in service of faith and community.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- The Quran presents men and women as sharing one origin and partnering in worship and communal duties.
- Allah created men and women with complementary strengths, while honor depends on taqwa rather than gender, race, or nationality.
- Online gender wars distort the Quranic outlook and create hatred between men and women.
- Muslims should submit to Allah’s guidance, including guidance specifically directed to men or women, rather than compare burdens.
- Believing men and women should cooperate in families and communities and avoid being drawn into gender conflict.
- The khutbah closes with dua for Sudan and Gaza, Muslim unity, and the completion of Jumu'ah prayer.
Try this week
Reject and disengage from gender wars online and in real life.
Follow Allah’s guidance whether it is addressed to men, women, or both, without turning it into a comparison contest.
Work with believing men and women to serve families, communities, and the wider society.
Command good, discourage evil, establish prayer, give zakat, and obey Allah and His Messenger.
Make sincere dua for believers facing war, famine, and oppression in Sudan and Gaza.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“They're not at war with each other. They're on the same mission, on the same goal, on the same path.”
“We're not representatives of our gender, or representatives of our tribe or nation. We are submitters to Allah, slaves to Allah.”
“Anytime we see ourselves or others getting dragged into gender wars, remember that believing men and believing women are allies of one another.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that men and women come from one origin and are meant to support one another as allies. Both have shared responsibilities to worship Allah, encourage good, avoid evil, and serve their communities. Allah may give different guidance in some areas, but Muslims respond by submitting to His wisdom rather than competing over fairness. We should not let social media create hatred between men and women. The khutbah also reminds us to make dua for people suffering in Sudan and Gaza.
- What does it mean for boys and girls to be allies instead of rivals?
- How can we avoid getting pulled into angry arguments online?
- What is one way our family can serve others together?
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