Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 3, 2026.
Homes must be safe from abuse
“Do not allow us to value the appearance of a marriage more than the safety of the people within it.”
In one sentence
Islam requires homes and communities to embody mercy, safety, justice, and accountability, making abuse in any form haram and obligating Muslims to confront it and support survivors.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- The khateeb contrasts public morality with private family abuse and emphasizes that Allah's accountability applies inside the home.
- He cites Quranic and prophetic teachings rejecting mistreatment of spouses, children, servants, and anyone under one's authority.
- He broadens abuse beyond physical violence to include financial, spiritual, sexual, emotional, and mental abuse.
- He frames survivor support and prevention as a communal obligation, highlighting shelters, counseling, legal services, and collective responsibility.
- He urges perpetrators to acknowledge harm, make amends, seek transformation, and stop using religion or marriage to excuse violence.
- He closes with practical self-examination, calls for community action, and a dua for safety, healing, justice, and mercy.
Try this week
Stop at the Pillars of Peace table, thank its staff, and learn how to support its shelter and services.
If experiencing abuse, seek help from the community domestic-violence agency and do not go through it alone.
If causing harm, acknowledge it, make amends, seek genuine help, and undertake the work of changing behavior.
On Jummah, write down whether your words, actions, or hands are hurting anyone, then remedy what needs repair.
Help build year-round community support through shelters, counseling, legal services, and serious responses to abuse.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“There's nothing in our tradition that validates the mistreatment of a child, of a spouse, of somebody who you have now authority over, and you can justify what is unjustifiable in any which way.”
“Your strength is not about how you can exert control and dominion over somebody who has less authority over you and have fear of Allah.”
“Authority has to be rooted in accountability. Stop playing games with people's hearts. What you're really doing is playing games with your own life, both in this reality as well as in afterlife.”
“Do not allow us to value the appearance of a marriage more than the safety of the people within it.”
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