Love should guide how parents discipline
“When discipline becomes revenge, when teaching becomes cruelty, you're not fixing anything.”
Parents must treat children as a trust from Allah by expressing affection consistently, correcting without revenge, and maintaining connection as children grow.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Children are blessings and trusts, so parents must provide emotional love as well as material care.
- Yaqub’s patience after Yusuf’s disappearance shows how to preserve love despite serious wrongdoing.
- Discipline should correct rather than become personal anger, revenge, or cruelty.
- Parents should invest in connection early, continue reaching out as children mature, and express love before it is too late.
- The imam then addressed salat al-ghaib and encouraged dua, charity, and lasting good deeds for the deceased.
In the khateeb's words
“Children brothers and sisters are a blessing from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala A gift from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And they are also a trust from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
“When discipline becomes revenge When teaching becomes cruelty You're not fixing anything Wallahi, you're destroying everything”
“The person who does not Show mercy Will not Receive mercy”
“Do not wait until it's too late Say those words While your children can still hear them”
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that children are gifts and trusts from Allah, not possessions, so parents are responsible for both their needs and emotional security. The Prophet showed love openly, and Yaqub continued caring for his sons even after their terrible wrongdoing. We should correct children without turning discipline into revenge, and we should keep reaching out as they grow older. The imam urged parents to say loving words now, while children can still hear them. He also explained that prayers, charity, and lasting good deeds are meaningful ways to benefit loved ones who have died.
- What makes you feel loved at home?
- How can someone correct a mistake without being cruel?
- What loving words could we say to someone in our family this week?
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