12:14 But He will question…16:53 we are doing it…
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Treat hurtful relatives with Islamic kindness

London Muslim Mosque

“We are doing it because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala asked us to do it.”

The khateeb, at 16:53

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In one sentence

Believers should treat hurtful relatives according to Islamic manners and for Allah’s sake, maintaining kindness and family ties without retaliating or mirroring their harm.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Introduces questions about abusive or hurtful relatives and whether cutting ties is permissible.
  2. Uses the examples of Muhammad, Nuh, Lut, and Ibrahim to show that righteous people may be tested through family.
  3. Explains that people are not accountable for choosing difficult relatives but are accountable for how they respond.
  4. Teaches listeners to act according to their own Islamic values rather than copying betrayal, curses, or cruelty.
  5. Illustrates forgiveness and reconciliation through Abu Bakr’s response to Mistah and Umar’s response to Abu Maryam.
  6. Concludes by urging listeners to contact, visit, or reconcile with estranged relatives.
Try this week
Do not retaliate with betrayal, trickery, curses, or cruelty.
Maintain family ties and kindness for Allah’s sake, not merely in response to good treatment.
Consider calling, visiting, or reconciling with an estranged relative.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 111Shows the Prophet being publicly opposed and maligned by his uncle Abu Lahab.
Surah 11Uses Nuh, Lut, and Ibrahim to show that family members may reject righteousness.
Surah 66Uses Nuh, Lut, and Ibrahim to show that family members may reject righteousness.
Surah 9Uses Nuh, Lut, and Ibrahim to show that family members may reject righteousness.
Surah 29Frames difficult relationships and life circumstances as tests of faith.
Surah 31Supports maintaining courteous companionship with parents.
Quran 24:22Urges Abu Bakr to forgive Mistah and resume his support after the slander of Aisha.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“But He will question you how you choose to treat Him and deal with Him, because that's in your control.”
London Muslim Mosque · London, ON
Play from 12:14
“we are doing it because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala asked us to do it”
London Muslim Mosque · London, ON
Play from 16:53
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today’s khutbah reminded us that difficult relatives can be a test, but their behavior is not ours to control. What Allah will ask us about is how we respond, so we should keep our own manners and avoid returning betrayal, curses, or cruelty. Family ties and kindness should be practiced for Allah’s sake, not only when people treat us well. The examples of Abu Bakr with Mistah and Umar with Abu Maryam showed that forgiveness and reconciliation can overcome deep hurt. We can begin with a wise and safe phone call, visit, or other step toward repair.

  1. When someone treats us badly, what choices are still in our control?
  2. What does kindness for Allah’s sake look like in our family?
  3. Who might need a gentle message or visit, and what would make it wise and safe?
Where it was given

The masjid

London Muslim Mosque151 Oxford St W, London, ON N6H 1S3Jumu'ah First prayer 12:00 PM · second prayer 1:15 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at London Muslim Mosque193 khutbahs
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