13:57 If a man come to you.…26:37 Envy will destroy and…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 19, 2025.

Choose marriage by faith and character

IMAAM Center · Hussein Afeefy

“You like his character and his deen.”

The khateeb, at 13:57

Watch the khutbahFamily kit
In one sentence

Marriage between a man and woman is a divinely defined source of affection, family, and protection, so parents should prepare children early, spouses should be chosen by faith and character, and believers should guard against envy.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Frames changing moral values and confusion as the reason for discussing marriage.
  2. Presents marriage as Allah's sign bringing affection, mercy, children, and grandchildren.
  3. Defines spouse selection through faith, character, chastity, and Islamic boundaries.
  4. Urges parents to teach children about marriage early and encourages marriage or fasting for youth.
  5. Warns against premarital relationships and envy, closing with prayers for Palestine and Gaza.
Try this week
Parents and grandparents should discuss marriage and Islamic boundaries with children early.
Youth who have the means should pursue marriage; those unable should fast.
Families should prioritize a potential spouse’s faith and character.
Believers should avoid premarital relationships and trust Allah’s distribution of blessings.
When envy arises, distinguish wanting a blessing from wishing it removed from someone else.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 30:21Presented marriage, affection, and mercy as signs of Allah.
Quran 16:72Connected spouses with children, grandchildren, and provision.
Quran 2:221Set faith as a boundary for marriage and prioritized believers over polytheists.
Quran 5:5Discussed marriage to chaste women from the People of the Book.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“If a man come to you. And you like his character and his deen. Two qualities. His character. His manners. And his deen. Let him get married.”
IMAAM Center · Silver Spring, MD
Play from 13:57
“Envy will destroy and eat your good deeds as the fire will eat the wood or consume the wood.”
IMAAM Center · Silver Spring, MD
Play from 26:37
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khateeb spoke about marriage as a blessing from Allah, bringing tranquility, affection, mercy, and family life. He encouraged parents to talk with children about marriage and religious boundaries as part of preparing them for adulthood. He emphasized choosing a spouse for faith, character, and good manners, rather than letting appearance, wealth, or family standing lead the decision. He also reminded listeners that spouses can enjoy life together and that Allah's guidance can help them through hardship. At the end, he warned against envy, explaining that wishing for a blessing ourselves is different from wanting someone else to lose theirs.

  1. What is one way we can show more affection and mercy at home this week?
  2. What does good character look like when someone is upset or disappointed?
  3. When a friend gets something you wish you had, how could you celebrate with them while handling your own feelings?
Where it was given

The masjid

IMAAM Center (Indonesian Muslim Association in America)9100 Georgia Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20910Jumu'ah 1st Jumu'ah 12:15 PM · 2nd Jumu'ah 1:30 PMKhateebHussein AfeefyMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at IMAAM Center74 khutbahs
Keep listening

More on Family & marriage

All on this topic
Don't let a moment of disagreement turn into conflict where years of good are forgotten like that.14:45IAR Atwater · Southwest Raleigh, NC · Oct 31, 2026Protect relationships when disagreements ariseEPIC · Plano, TX · Oct 30, 2026Honor your mother while you still can“Call sometimes just because you want to hear her voice.”We cannot have disrespectful parents disrespecting each other in the presence of their kids.22:41UMMA · Southfield, MI · Sep 19, 2026Faith shows in how we treat family