Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 17, 2026.
Better parenting begins with self-reform
“If you succeed in making tazkiyah on your nafs, parenting becomes the easiest thing.”
In one sentence
Effective Islamic parenting requires moving beyond physical provision to habit formation and self-accountability, beginning with parents reforming themselves.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Parenting is consequential and requires learning Islamic responsibilities.
- Ri'ayah means physical care, not complete upbringing; parents should avoid spoiling or depriving children.
- Tarbiyah builds healthy habits and routines through encouragement and balanced limits.
- Tazkiyah develops self-evaluation, accountability, and Quran-guided change, beginning around age nine.
- Parents should reduce screaming, name-calling, ridicule, and discrimination between children.
- Parents who practice tazkiyah on themselves become better and more effective parents.
Try this week
Learn Islamic responsibilities as a parent, spouse, and caregiver.
Provide halal sustenance and physical care without giving children everything they want.
Build healthy routines involving early rising, hygiene, prayer, homework, exercise, and appropriate recreation.
Reduce screaming, name-calling, ridicule, and favoritism between children.
Admit mistakes, accept respectful correction, consult the Quran and hadith, and apply solutions consistently.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 49Used to prohibit ridiculing children and making them feel like failures.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Your child cannot go for a second father or a second mother. There's no second opinion. You're the one who's in charge.”
“When you have nothing you want everything. When you have everything you want nothing.”
“You love them and they love you have nothing to do with spoiling them.”
“if you succeed in making tazkiyah on your nafs parenting becomes the easiest thing”
Where it was given
The masjids
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