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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Honor your parents with ihsan

ISNA Canada (ICC)

“You have to go out of your way to be nice to them.”

The khateeb, at 12:26

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In one sentence

Because Allah commands ihsan toward parents regardless of their faith or treatment of us, Muslims must actively honor, support, and pray for them rather than merely avoid disrespect.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Explains the Qur'anic command to treat parents with ihsan and the compassion embedded in the word walidayn.
  2. Distinguishes husna and ihsan, emphasizing excellent treatment even toward parents who reject Islam.
  3. Shows that Qur'anic guidance requires active kindness, time, financial support, gentle speech, and care.
  4. Retells a father-and-son narration to illustrate parental sacrifice and the consequences of neglecting aging parents.
  5. Calls listeners to earn their parents' prayers, keep living parents close, and perform ongoing charity for deceased parents.
Try this week
Speak gently to parents, spend time with them, support them financially, and look after them.
Earn parents' du'as through service and ask them to pray for you.
If parents are alive, intend not to abandon them in an old home and take steps to bring them home when possible.
Give sadaqah jariyah on behalf of living or deceased parents, including sponsoring an orphan or feeding a family.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 29Used to argue that children must treat disbelieving parents excellently while refusing disobedience to Allah.
Surah 46Used to emphasize ihsan toward believing parents who encourage religious commitment.
Sahih MuslimThe account of Asma bint Abi Bakr and her disbelieving mother supports maintaining excellent family ties.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“if your parents are not good to you Allah will ask them about their treatment towards you but Allah will ask you about your treatment towards them”
ISNA Canada (ICC) · Sheridan, ON
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“you have to go out of your way to be nice to them”
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“Instead of being polite to me, you became harsh to me. Instead of drawing me close, you pushed me away.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Allah teaches that caring for parents is not merely avoiding disrespect; it is an active duty of kindness, gentleness, time, and support. This duty remains even when parents are not Muslim, although a child does not obey a request to abandon faith. The khutbah reminds us of the sacrifices parents make and warns that aging parents should not be treated as disposable. We should seek our parents' du'a through concrete service, keep them close when possible, and care for them in old age. If they have died, we can still pray for them and give ongoing charity on their behalf.

  1. How can we show respect when we disagree with someone in our family?
  2. What could we give in charity on behalf of someone who has passed away?
Where it was given

The masjid

ISNA Canada, Islamic Centre of Canada2200 South Sheridan Way, Mississauga, ON L5J 2M4Jumu'ah Two services · 1:00 PM, 3:00 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at ISNA Canada (ICC)124 khutbahs
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