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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 29, 2025.

Marriage needs a clear written agreement

IECOC · Moustafa Al-Qazwini

“The most important covenant you make in your lifetime.”

The khateeb, at 21:12

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In one sentence

Marriage is a sacred covenant requiring affection, presence, provision, and a detailed written agreement clarifying spouses' rights and responsibilities before difficulties arise.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Frames marriage as an institution of affection, mercy, respect, and emotional protection.
  2. Explains the wife's rights to dignity, companionship, presence, intimacy, and mutual agreement.
  3. Details financial support according to the husband's means, including shelter, food, clothing, and medication.
  4. Urges couples to create a prenuptial agreement covering finances, housing, work, custody, inheritance, and divorce.
  5. Recommends counseling, parental guidance, and written agreements even for couples already married.
  6. Affirms the wife's entitlement to her dowry and discusses property rights during divorce.
Try this week
Before marriage, write a detailed agreement covering rights, responsibilities, spending, housing, work, transportation, income deficits, custody, and inheritance.
Discuss whether finances are shared or handled by one breadwinner, according to the couple's means.
Seek premarital counseling or legal help, especially before a first marriage.
If already married, set aside time to create or update an agreement together.
Husbands should remain present with family, provide affection and support, and give the wife's dowry promptly.
Parents should advise their children to discuss these matters before becoming deeply attached.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“The most important covenant you make in your lifetime.”
IECOC · Costa Mesa, CA
Play from 21:12
“My advice to you, my friends, after 30 years living in this country, do not get married without prenuptial agreement.”
IECOC · Costa Mesa, CA
Play from 24:57
“You have to sit and discuss these things. And if you need help, there are people who are going to help you.”
IECOC · Costa Mesa, CA
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“But you have this religious and moral obligation to give her her dowry.”
IECOC · Costa Mesa, CA
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah presents marriage as a sacred covenant built on affection, mercy, respect, presence, and protection. It focuses on the wife's rights: dignity, companionship and intimacy, financial support according to the husband's means, and her full dowry (mahr). It urges couples to discuss and write down responsibilities about money, housing, work, children, divorce, and inheritance before marriage, while seeking counseling when needed. The aim is clarity and fairness, not distrust, so families are better prepared for pressure and disagreement.

  1. What does showing love and respect at home look like beyond buying things?
  2. Why might it help a couple to discuss money and responsibilities before marriage?
  3. When is asking a counselor or trusted adult for help a wise choice?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Educational Center of Orange County3194-B Airport Loop Dr, Costa Mesa, CA 92626KhateebMoustafa Al-QazwiniMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at IECOC44 khutbahs
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