Parents shape children through example
“If you want to grant the proper terbiya for your kids then look into yourself first.”
Parents must treat children as an amanah by providing material care and tarbiyah through their own faith, character, and example, especially by connecting them to the Qur'an and masjid.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Contrasts children's rights with parents' rights after discussing kindness to parents.
- Distinguishes physical caregiving from tarbiyah, which forms children through parental example.
- Urges parents to improve their iman, salah, and conduct because children imitate what they see.
- Presents children as a divine blessing and future foundation of the ummah.
- Connects responsible parenting to choosing spouses and building homes of love, mercy, and respect.
- Calls families to bring children to the masjid and enroll them in Qur'an school.
In the khateeb's words
“when it comes to terbiya this is leading by example that our kids are watching us that's why the scholars always say if you want to grant the proper terbiya for your kids then look into yourself first”
“the biggest favor and the biggest ni'mah you could ever provide for your kids is to expose them to learn the Qur'an the book of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
For the dinner table
Today's khutbah reminded us that children are a blessing from Allah and a trust we must care for. Providing food, clothes, and help with school matters, but tarbiyah also means teaching through the example we set. Children watch how we pray, give charity, and treat other people, so raising them calls us to work on ourselves too. Our worship should help us build a home filled with love, respect, and mercy. The khateeb encouraged families to bring children to the masjid and help them learn the Qur'an, while seeking Allah's help and guidance.
- What is something good you have learned by watching someone in our family?
- How could we help each other make time for salah this week?
- What would help you feel more welcome and involved at the masjid?
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