0:38 peace is the first…9:16 don't be ashamed to…16:02 do whatever it takes…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Marriage should bring peace, not drama

Masjid Sadar

“Peace is the first number one objective of a marriage.”

The khateeb, at 0:38

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In one sentence

Marriage should provide sakina, or peace, so spouses must show mutual love and respect, avoid destructive extremes, and work patiently to preserve family unity.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Defines sakina and peace as marriage’s first objective, before love and mercy.
  2. Explains how ongoing conflict and public family drama affect children and society.
  3. Encourages singles to seek a spouse who brings calm and urges spouses to understand different emotional needs.
  4. Promotes public affection, mutual respect, and emotional intelligence while rejecting cultural baggage and harmful jokes.
  5. Warns against domineering husbands and excessively individualistic wives, calling for an Islamic middle path.
  6. Urges compromise and accommodation before considering separation or divorce.
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Married couples should resolve arguments instead of giving up when conflict arises.
Husbands should show love and mercy, express affection publicly, and avoid jokes about taking additional wives.
Wives should show respect toward their husbands, while both spouses avoid domination and cultural extremes.
Singles should seek spouses who bring calm rather than drama and should stay away from destructive behavior.
Couples should compromise and accommodate one another before considering separation.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“peace is the first number one objective of a marriage then and love and mercy comes after Sakina”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
Play from 0:38
“don't be ashamed to declare love for your wife even publicly that is sunnah”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
Play from 9:16
“do whatever it takes to compromise and accommodate and when you try everything possible then separation can possibly be an answer but don't jump to that”
Masjid Sadar · Parlin, NJ
Play from 16:02
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that peace, or sakina, is marriage’s first purpose. It warns that constant arguments and public conflict can hurt children and make young people afraid of marriage. The speaker presents men as needing respect and women as needing love, while calling both spouses to act with care and emotional intelligence. He urges families to avoid domination, cultural extremes, and jokes that damage trust. Couples should show affection, understand one another, compromise, and consider separation only after sincere efforts to repair the relationship.

  1. What helps people feel calm and safe at home when there is disagreement?
  2. How can we show love and respect in everyday family life?
  3. What does compromise look like when two people want different things?
Where it was given

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Masjid Sadar & Community Center216 Ernston Rd, Parlin, NJ 08859Jumu'ah 1:00 PM & 1:45 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at Masjid Sadar69 khutbahs
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