Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 30, 2026.
Men should serve their families with humility
“We're in this together, we're a team.”
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Frames Sha'ban as a time to increase worship before Ramadan.
- Centers Muslim women as deserving special honor for their household responsibilities.
- Urges practical gratitude and assistance during suhoor and iftar.
- Defines Islamic masculinity as respect, humility, partnership, and service rather than fear.
- Closes with a call to emulate this character, followed by community announcements, prayers, and support requests.
Try this week
Thank mothers, wives, sisters, and daughters explicitly for their daily work.
During Ramadan, wake 15, 20 minutes before iftar to set the table, fill water, and arrange plates.
Offer sincere compliments and gratitude for food and household work.
Avoid criticizing a meal; assume good intentions and make polite adjustments if needed.
Practice humility by saying thank you and apologizing when appropriate.
Treat wives as partners with respect rather than fear, following the Prophet’s example.
Make dua for hospitalized community members and those who have died.
Sources the khateeb cited
Jami` at-TirmidhiUsed the Prophet’s statement that the best people are those best to their wives.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“an alpha male in islam is someone who he's created his personality in such a way that within the boundaries of his household there is maqam”
“i'm not your master i'm your partner i don't own you we're in this together we're a team”
“protecting and providing it comes with also a lot of humility not that i'm the protector and provider so you walk with your chest out no it comes with a lot of humility”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
As Ramadan approaches, the khateeb reminded us that preparing for it includes appreciating the women in our families. He described how mothers and other caregivers keep looking after people and preparing meals while they are fasting themselves. He encouraged practical help, such as setting the table before iftar, along with sincere thanks and kind words. Drawing on the Prophet’s example, he urged families to show love, humility, and respect, including patience when someone is tired or a meal is not what we expected. His reminder included younger sisters too: everyone’s efforts deserve to be noticed and appreciated throughout the year.
- What is something someone did for you today that you would like to thank them for?
- Which job could you take responsibility for before or after iftar?
- How could you respond kindly when someone is too tired to make your favorite meal?
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