12:34 Your family and my…22:24 Focus on the good…24:00 Be gentle. Love…24:23 Use it wisely. Use it…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jul 10, 2021.

Family life is a trust to honor

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“Focus on the good qualities your spouse has.”

The khateeb, at 22:24

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In one sentence

The khutbah argues that family life is an amanah requiring parents and spouses to actively ground relationships in the Qur'an and Sunnah, resist Shaytan and social-media pressures, practice appreciation and gentleness, and pursue good deeds.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Umar's account identifies children's rights, including good parents, a meaningful name, and Qur'anic education.
  2. Every family member is a guardian responsible for those in their care.
  3. Shaytan seeks to destroy marriages, while social media can intensify resentment, separation, and harm to children.
  4. Listeners should seek Allah's protection during anger, appreciate their spouse's good qualities, practice gentleness, and use social media wisely.
  5. The khutbah closes by urging fasting, night prayer, and charity during the first ten days of Dhul-Hijjah.
Try this week
Teach children the Qur'an and deen while cultivating love and understanding of the shahada.
When angry during marital disagreements, sincerely say A'udhu billahi min ash-shaytani rajeem.
Focus on a spouse's good qualities and express appreciation for them.
Practice gentleness, patience, and forbearance toward a spouse's negative qualities.
Use social media wisely and avoid sharing personal pictures and private life.
Increase fasting, night prayer, and charity during the first ten days of Dhul-Hijjah.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih MuslimThe Iblis narrative presents separating spouses as the devil's prized achievement.
Sahih MuslimUrges spouses not to reject one another over one disliked quality while recognizing another good quality.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Your family and my family, is a trust, is an amanah, that we are entrusted with, brothers and sisters in Islam.”
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Play from 12:34
“Focus on the good qualities your spouse has. Focus on the good qualities your spouse has.”
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Play from 22:24
“Be gentle. Love forbearance. And be patient towards the negative. And focus on the positives. And show appreciation for it.”
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“Use it wisely. Use it as a sadaqa jariya. Do not share your picture and your personal life.”
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Play from 24:23
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah reminded us that a strong family is an amanah from Allah and that every family member carries responsibility for its care. Parents should nurture their children’s faith, teach them the Qur’an, and give religious growth the same attention they give school and other achievements. Husbands and wives will sometimes disagree, but they should seek Allah’s protection, resist destructive thoughts, and respond with patience and gentleness. The khateeb encouraged spouses to focus on each other’s good qualities, show appreciation, and protect their private lives from the harms of careless social-media use. A loving home supports children, strengthens society, and helps the whole family seek goodness in this life and the hereafter.

  1. What is one good quality you appreciate in someone in our family?
  2. What could we do together to make Qur’an and faith a warmer part of our home?
  3. How can you tell whether something from family life should stay private online?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid Ibrahim, Islamic Society of Delaware28 Salem Church Rd, Newark, DE 19713
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