Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 31, 2026.
Control anger before it causes harm
“The strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
In one sentence
Anger is a natural emotion, but believers must control their responses through prophetic practices, forgiveness, and good conduct, reserving anger for injustice rather than personal ego.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Reflects on ordinary situations that trigger anger at work, home, in traffic, and online.
- Explains that anger is natural, but acting while angry causes lasting harm.
- Uses the Prophet's repeated advice not to become angry and defines true strength as self-control.
- Presents restraining anger, forgiving others, and treating them well as qualities Allah loves.
- Teaches practical Sunnah responses: seek refuge in Allah, change posture, pause, lower the voice, and step away.
- Distinguishes anger for personal pride from anger for Allah, then assigns a one-week practice and forgiveness challenge.
Try this week
Choose one situation where anger usually appears and practice the Sunnah there this week.
If standing, sit down; if sitting, lie down if necessary.
Pause angry emails, messages, and online replies until after cooling off or sleeping on them.
Lower your voice when speaking to a spouse or child while upset.
Try to forgive anyone who wronged you before the day ends, then do something good for them if possible.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 3Describes those who restrain anger, pardon people, and do good as people loved by Allah.
Sahih al-BukhariSupports seeking refuge from Shaytan when anger becomes visible and intense.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Anger itself is not the sin. Allah created this emotion as a part of us being human.”
“The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength. But the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
“Your children will forget most of your lectures. But they will remember how you spoke to them when you were upset.”
“Silence is not losing. It is winning the fight that actually matters. That one is the one inside of you.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Anger is a normal feeling, but it becomes dangerous when we let it make our decisions or choose our words. The Prophet taught that real strength is controlling ourselves when we are angry. We can seek Allah's protection, change our position, pause before replying, lower our voices, and forgive people. This week, we can choose one situation where we often become angry and practice responding with patience and kindness.
- When has anger taken over the steering wheel for you, and what happened next?
- What is one kind action you could take after forgiving someone?
- Where could you practice the Sunnah response to anger this week?
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