Put ego aside and restore family ties
“No one will have your back as much as your siblings or your cousins will.”
Allah calls Muslims to preserve family ties through forgiveness, regular contact, and practical support because severing kinship carries serious spiritual consequences.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Retells Yusuf’s betrayal by his brothers and his choice to forgive them.
- Explains that maintaining kinship is a serious religious obligation.
- Cites Quranic and hadith warnings about severing family ties.
- Uses Musa’s relationship with Harun and his sister as examples of family support.
- Calls listeners to put ego aside, call estranged relatives, and help family members in hardship.
- Closes with prayers for forgiveness, Gaza, and oppressed people before prayer.
In the khateeb's words
“There is nothing upon you. You're free today. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about all the things that you have done to me.”
“After this khutbah. If you cut ties with your family. Put your ego to the side. Pick up the phone and call them. Maintain that relationship. Even if it's on a basic level.”
“No one will have your back as much as your siblings or your cousins will. Nobody.”
“Before you leave today insha'Allah. Make it your intention. You will pick up your phone. And you will call your siblings. For the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.”
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah taught that keeping family ties is a serious part of faith. The speaker used Yusuf’s forgiveness of his brothers, and Musa’s support from his brother and sister, to show that family can be a source of mercy and strength. We were urged to put ego aside, call relatives we have avoided, and help siblings or cousins facing hardship. The khutbah warned that cutting family ties has serious spiritual consequences, so even a basic relationship is worth preserving. It closed with prayers for forgiveness, Gaza, and oppressed people everywhere.
- Who in our family might appreciate a kind message this week, and what could we say?
- What does helping a sibling look like when they are having a hard time?
- Why do you think the khutbah connected forgiveness with family ties?
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