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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 11, 2026.

Choose faith and character in marriage

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In one sentence

Marriage should be pursued as a divinely established act of worship, with families prioritizing faith and character over beauty and wealth and couples committing to mutual care and problem-solving.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Introduces marriage as relevant to prospective spouses and parents, grounded in Surah al-Rum.
  2. Explains the creation of Adam and Hawwa, rejecting the rib account and emphasizing shared human origin.
  3. Presents marriage as the lawful fulfillment of human desire and critiques rejecting it as asceticism.
  4. Urges families to prioritize religion, ethics, and manners over beauty, money, dowry, and status.
  5. Uses the Prophet's encouragement of a poor man to marry and the example of Ali and Fatimah.
  6. Concludes that marriage is worship and sunnah, urging spouses to care for one another and solve problems amid high divorce rates.
Try this week
Evaluate prospective spouses first on religion, ethics, and manners.
Do not make beauty, wealth, housing, or a large dowry the primary criteria.
Marry when mature and able to care for a spouse and family.
Married couples should seek mutual understanding and resolve small problems before they grow.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 30:21Marriage is presented as one of Allah's signs, characterized by affection and mercy.
Sahih al-BukhariUsed to contrast a commonly reported creation narrative with the speaker's Ahlul Bayt-based account.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Go and get married He told him Ya Rasulullah I have nothing Then He came again To Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi wa'aleh”
Al-Khoei · Jamaica, NY
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“when you get married you kind of you have like you are applying in this life the sunnah of Allah and Prophet Muhammad”
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For the dinner table

Today's khutbah focused on marriage and the affection and mercy Allah places between spouses. The khateeb encouraged families to value faith, character, and good manners when considering a marriage. He warned against letting beauty or money become the main measure of a person, and he recalled the simple dowry in the marriage of Imam Ali and Lady Fatimah. He also described marriage as a form of worship and following the Prophet's sunnah. He reminded couples to care for each other through life's ups and downs, understand one another, and work together to solve problems before they grow.

  1. What does someone's kindness tell you that their appearance cannot?
  2. When a small disagreement starts, what could you say to help everyone understand each other?
Where it was given

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Imam Al-Khoei Islamic Center89-89 Van Wyck Expressway, Jamaica, NY 11435ArchiveAll khutbahs at Al-Khoei20 khutbahs
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