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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 3, 2025.

Do not let grievances break family ties

ICCR · Mikaeel Smith

“It's about your relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.”

The khateeb, at 9:27

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In one sentence

Because Allah commands believers to forgive and maintain relationships, family conflicts should be viewed through one's relationship with Allah rather than allowing grievances to justify estrangement.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Introduces the shaytani mindset through Iblis's refusal to obey Allah.
  2. Applies the distinction between vertical and horizontal relationships to family conflicts.
  3. Uses the speaker's story about Qasim to illustrate excuse-making and disobedience.
  4. Recounts Abu Bakr's response to Mistah and the Qur'anic command to forgive and overlook.
  5. Urges listeners to contact someone they have stopped speaking to after Jumu'ah.
  6. Closes with the hadith of a man of Jannah whose heart held no ill feelings toward Muslims.
Try this week
Call or text someone from whom you have become estranged after Jumu'ah.
Apologize for your own silence or part in the conflict.
Forgive and overlook wrongs while viewing the relationship through Allah's commands.
Before sleeping, examine your heart for ill feelings toward other Muslims.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 24Used to urge forgiveness, overlooking harm, and continuing support for relatives and those in need.
Surah 7Used to explain Iblis's prideful refusal and the mindset of claiming superiority.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“It's not about the horizontal relationship, Habibi. It's about your relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala That you're putting in jeopardy.”
ICCR · Cedar Rapids, IA
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“If the Qur'an isn't enough, what will be enough for us?”
ICCR · Cedar Rapids, IA
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“Every night I go to sleep, I make sure in my heart, there's no ill feelings for any Muslim. No Muslim.”
ICCR · Cedar Rapids, IA
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that family conflicts should be viewed through our relationship with Allah, not only through the hurt another person caused. The story of Abu Bakr and Mistah shows that forgiveness can mean continuing to help someone who wronged us, because we want Allah's forgiveness. The speaker urged us to take a concrete first step by calling or texting someone we have stopped speaking to after Jumu'ah. He also shared a hadith about a man of Jannah whose heart held no ill feelings toward any Muslim. The khutbah closed by asking Allah to make us people of forgiveness and praying for people in Gaza and Sudan.

  1. What does it mean to look at a family disagreement through our relationship with Allah?
  2. How can we clear our hearts before sleep?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of Cedar Rapids (ICCR)2999 1st Avenue SW, Cedar Rapids, IA 52405Jumu'ah 12:45 PMKhateebMikaeel SmithMore khutbahs
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