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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Apr 10, 2026.

Choose deen and character in marriage

ICN Ogden, ICN An-Noor

“A woman is married for four things.”

The khateeb, at 6:38

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In one sentence

Muslim families should restore the Sunnah’s priorities in marriage by putting deen and character above wealth, ethnicity, appearance, and status, and by making halal marriage easier so homes can become sources of peace.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Opens with Khalid, a pious teacher rejected because of income, housing, and ethnicity.
  2. Frames peaceful homes and family relationships as essential sources of sukoon.
  3. Explains the prophetic priority of religion over wealth, lineage, and beauty.
  4. Critiques cultural marriage standards involving nationality, income, appearance, and status.
  5. Uses Surah al-Nur 24:32 to urge facilitating marriage and trusting Allah’s provision.
  6. Closes with the story of Juley Bip and three practical priorities for families.
Try this week
Prioritize a prospective spouse’s deen and character.
Review and remove criteria not grounded in the Quran and Sunnah, including ethnicity, wealth thresholds, and appearance.
Facilitate halal marriage for righteous candidates, even when finances are limited.
Trust Allah more than social pressure when making family marriage decisions.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariA spouse may be sought for wealth, lineage, beauty, or religion, but religion should be prioritized.
Sahih MuslimAllah looks at hearts and deeds rather than forms and wealth.
Quran 24:32Urges the community to facilitate marriage and trust Allah’s provision for those who are poor.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“A woman is married for four things. Her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. Choose the one with religion. May your hands be blessed.”
ICN Ogden · Naperville, IL
Play from 6:38
“sometimes we close the doors to halal for them and shaitan convinces them that haram is okay”
ICN Ogden · Naperville, IL
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“returning to the sunnah in marriage is not compromise it is worship and trusting in Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam”
ICN Ogden · Naperville, IL
Play from 18:50
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khateeb asks families to think carefully about how they choose spouses. He says deen and character should come before wealth, ethnicity, appearance, or social status, because faith shapes how someone treats a spouse. Families should make halal marriage easier, especially when a good person has limited money, and should not let fear of people’s opinions overrule trust in Allah. The story of Juley Bip shows the Prophet honoring a person whom others overlooked. When homes are built on faith, responsibility, and mercy, they can become places of peace and support.

  1. What qualities should matter most when someone chooses a spouse?
  2. How might families make marriage easier for good people?
  3. Why can social pressure become less important than trusting Allah?
Where it was given

The masjids

Islamic Center of Naperville, Masjid Al-Hilal (Ogden)2844 W. Ogden Ave, Naperville, IL 60540Jumu'ah 1st Khutbah 1:10 PM · 2nd Khutbah 2:20 PMIslamic Center of Naperville, Masjid An-Noor (248th)3540 248th Ave, Naperville, IL 60564Jumu'ah 1st Khutbah 1:10 PM · 2nd Khutbah 2:20 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at ICN Ogden13 khutbahs
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