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Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Dec 3, 2025.

Lawful marriage deserves family support

IIT · Ahmed Umarji

“Mahr does not always have to be monetary.”

The khateeb, at 10:05

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In one sentence

The story of Musa’s marriage and years of service teaches families and communities to honor lawful character-based choices, recognize hidden potential, and trust patient preparation for Allah’s larger plans.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Musa’s integrity leads Shu’ayb’s daughter to recommend him for employment.
  2. Parents should respect lawful marriage inclinations and avoid status-based objections.
  3. Communities should recognize worthy people and facilitate their opportunities.
  4. A father may honorably propose his daughter to a righteous man.
  5. Mahr may consist of service, teaching, or other nonmonetary benefit.
  6. Musa’s work and marriage provided security, integration, and divine protection.
  7. Years of shepherding trained Musa in patience, gentleness, compassion, and forbearance.
Try this week
Parents should consider their children’s lawful marriage preferences without rejecting suitable proposals for status, pride, or emotion.
Community members should recognize people’s strengths and help create opportunities for them.
Families should remember that mahr can include service, teaching, or another agreed benefit rather than only money.
When plans are delayed, believers should remain patient and look for possible preparation within the delay.
People should cultivate patience, gentleness, compassion, and forbearance through responsible service.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“If a person's son or daughter expresses a desire for marriage that does not violate sharia, that does not go against the teachings of deen, then the parents should not stand in the way.”
IIT · Torrance, CA
Play from 4:52
“We should appreciate and honor that and be from those who facilitate.”
IIT · Torrance, CA
Play from 7:30
“And this shows us that mahr does not always have to be monetary.”
IIT · Torrance, CA
Play from 10:05
“For tending to sheep, being a shepherd, it requires patience, it requires gentleness, it requires compassion, and it requires forbearance.”
IIT · Torrance, CA
Play from 16:20
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches from the story of Musa and Shu’ayb that good character should be recognized and honored. Parents should not block a lawful marriage because of pride, status, or other nonreligious reasons. A marriage gift does not always need to be money; it can include service or teaching. Musa’s years of work also show that Allah may use delays and ordinary responsibilities to prepare someone for an important mission. Patience, gentleness, compassion, and trustworthiness are qualities worth developing every day.

  1. When have you seen someone’s good qualities recognized by another person?
  2. What is one patient or helpful responsibility that could help you grow?
  3. Why might a family choose to value character over wealth or status?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Institute of Torrance18103 Prairie Ave, Torrance, CA 90504Jumu'ah First khutba 12:20 PM, salat 12:40 to 12:45 PM · Second Jumu'ah 1:20 PM, salat 1:40 to 1:45 PMKhateebAhmed UmarjiMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at IIT64 khutbahs
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