Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Jul 25, 2026.
Correct children without making discipline personal
“There is a very important line between correcting your child and making your discipline personal.”
In one sentence
Because children are Allah-given trusts rather than possessions, parents must visibly express love, remain approachable through hurt and correction, and invest in lifelong friendship with them.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Children are blessings and trusts, not possessions; parents are accountable for their care.
- The Prophet modeled visible affection and taught that mercy must be expressed.
- Ya'qub's patient, open-hearted response to betrayal illustrates faithful fatherhood.
- Discipline should correct behavior without becoming personal anger, revenge, or cruelty.
- Parents should invest early and adapt their roles through play, guidance, correction, and friendship.
- The khutbah closes with prayers for families, the ill, the deceased, and the wider Muslim community.
Try this week
Tell children explicitly that they are loved and show affection through words, hugs, and kisses.
Keep the door open and remain approachable when children disappoint or hurt you.
Correct wrongdoing without making discipline personal or turning it into revenge or cruelty.
Invest early through play, guidance, and shared time so children can remain connected as adults.
Continue caring about adult children's lives, safety, relationships, and struggles.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 12Uses Ya'qub's patient, caring response to his sons' betrayal as an example of fatherhood.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala did not give you a child to own him Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave you a child to raise him”
“The one who does not show mercy Will not receive mercy From Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
“There is a very important line Between correcting your child And making your discipline personal”
“The first seven years You play with them The second seven years You love them And you care for them”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Children are gifts from Allah, but they are also a trust placed in our care. The khutbah reminds parents that providing food and education is not enough; children also need to know they are loved and valued. The Prophet showed affection openly, and Ya'qub remained caring and approachable even after deep hurt. Parents should correct wrongdoing without turning discipline into revenge, and they should invest in connection at every stage of a child's life.
- What is one way we can show someone in our family that we love them?
- How can we correct a mistake without making the person feel rejected?
- What would it mean to stay close to your family as you grow older?
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