Choose spouses for faith and character
“Marry for the deen because that is what stays of quality in this life and in the hereafter.”
Parents should guide children toward religiously grounded marriages, treating marriage as a serious responsibility that builds compassionate families and sustains the Muslim community.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Parents’ responsibility begins before birth and continues through guiding children toward suitable spouses.
- Prophetic teachings present marriage as Sunnah, protection from haram, and a major responsibility.
- Marriage and children sustain the Muslim community, alongside commentary on demographic change and immigration policies.
- Qur’anic descriptions frame marriage as a binding covenant marked by mutual protection, tranquility, affection, and mercy.
- Spouses should be chosen primarily for deen rather than wealth or beauty, while recognizing that nobody is perfect.
- The congregation is urged to remember Gaza’s suffering and support orphan sponsorship.
In the khateeb's words
“The responsibility to establish a family and start a family. It helps you secure yourself from haram. And it makes you a person of responsibility.”
“the more mawadda and rahmah you have the more you are a recipient of a sakina”
“marry for the deen because that is what stays of quality in this life and in the hereafter”
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminded us that a parent’s responsibility begins even before a child is born and continues as children grow toward marriage. Parents should teach children to choose spouses whose faith and character help them live in a way pleasing to Allah. Marriage is a serious covenant marked by responsibility, tranquility, affection, mercy, and forgiveness. The speaker also stressed that marriage and children help sustain the Muslim community, while warning against choosing only for wealth or beauty. He asked the congregation to remember Gaza’s suffering and support orphans.
- What qualities matter most when choosing someone to build a family with?
- How can mercy and forgiveness make our home more peaceful?
- What is one practical way our family could help an orphan or another family in need?
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