10:16 Marriage is a…18:27 Domestic violence is a…
Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 10, 2026.

Healthy families reject domestic violence

ICSD · Taha Hassane

“Marriage is a blessing, but also it is a big responsibility.”

The khateeb, at 10:16

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In one sentence

Islam treats the family as a sacred shared responsibility built on love, compassion, respect, and accountability, making rejection of domestic violence essential to healthy families and communities.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Islam provides comprehensive guidance for marriage, parenting, conflict, divorce, and family life.
  2. Marriage is worship and shared responsibility, and premarital counseling helps prepare couples realistically.
  3. Healthy families raise righteous generations through taqwa, love, compassion, respect, and discipline.
  4. Domestic violence is oppression; recurring fear, control, threats, insults, or abuse must be distinguished from ordinary conflict.
  5. The Prophet’s example, respectful divorce, and mutual spousal support reject abuse and protect children and communities.
  6. Listeners are urged to calm themselves, evaluate their conduct against the Sunnah, support victims, and hold perpetrators accountable.
  7. The khutbah concludes by remembering Gaza and Palestine and calling for protest, advocacy, education, and justice.
Try this week
Seek premarital counseling to learn about marital challenges and develop realistic expectations.
Learn to distinguish ordinary conflict from recurring patterns of fear, threats, insults, control, or physical abuse.
When angry or disappointed, pause and consider whether your words and actions please Allah and reflect the Prophet’s Sunnah.
Support victims of domestic violence and hold perpetrators accountable.
Protest genocide, advocate for Palestinians’ rights, and educate fellow Americans about the occupation.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 30The creation of spouses, tranquility, love, and compassion grounds the family’s purpose.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Marriage is a blessing, but also it is a big responsibility. And both parents share this responsibility.”
ICSD · Clairemont, CA
Play from 10:16
“Domestic violence is a pattern of physically and emotionally abusive behaviors used by one individual to maintain control or power over a partner in the context of an intimate or family relationship.”
ICSD · Clairemont, CA
Play from 18:27
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

With the right intention, marriage can be an act of worship, but it also carries a serious shared responsibility. A healthy Muslim family grows through love, compassion, respect, discipline, and thoughtful upbringing. Domestic violence is oppression, not a normal marital disagreement, and the community should support victims and hold perpetrators accountable. When conflict becomes severe, people should calm themselves and, if separation is necessary, pursue it with dignity and goodness. We should also remember oppressed Palestinians, work for justice and peace, and teach others about their suffering.

  1. What makes a family feel safe, loving, and respectful?
  2. How can we calm down before saying or doing something hurtful?
  3. What does it mean to treat family members the way the Prophet treated his family?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of San Diego7050 Eckstrom Ave, San Diego, CA 92111Jumu'ah 12:00 PM & 1:30 PMKhateebTaha HassaneMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at ICSD36 khutbahs
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