Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 17, 2026.
Marriage must be safe from violence
“Marriage is not supposed to be a place where people feel fear.”
In one sentence
Marriage in Islam is meant to be a safe relationship of tranquility, affection, mercy, and mutual dignity, so domestic violence must be rejected, exposed, and actively addressed by families and community leaders.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Defines marriage through tranquility, mutual protection, affection, mercy, and good treatment.
- Presents domestic violence as widespread and without religious justification.
- Uses Prophetic teachings and examples to condemn hitting and protect victims.
- Explains male leadership as responsibility and contextualizes Quran 4:34 as de-escalation, not domination.
- Connects violence to anger, generational modeling, child trauma, and abuse against either spouse.
- Calls communities to speak up, support victims, seek help, and build peaceful homes.
Try this week
If abuse occurs, speak to a trusted religious leader, family member, or the authorities and seek protection.
Do not shame or dismiss someone who reports abuse; listen and help them find support.
De-escalate anger by separating, reflecting, and making dua instead of striking.
Teach children not to hit, avoid escalating arguments in front of them, and use nonviolent discipline.
If violence cannot be stopped, leave the unsafe marriage without treating divorce as a stigma.
Anyone who has used violence should seek therapy, make tawbah, and end the behavior.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 30:21Defines marriage through tranquility, affection, and mercy.
Quran 2:187Describes spouses as garments providing protection and covering.
Quran 4:19Commands husbands to deal with wives according to recognized goodness.
Quran 4:34Explains male responsibility as caretaking and rejects using the verse to justify abuse.
Quran 4:35Supports family mediation when marital conflict threatens reconciliation.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Marriage is not supposed to be a place where people feel fear, where people don't feel safe, where they're not sure if they get their spouse angry, what is going to happen.”
“And so this is something that we have to end in our generation, my brothers and sisters. We should have lower rates of domestic violence, if anything at all.”
“And so there is no stigma on a woman who is escaping this. And it is the duty of a Muslim.”
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