Parents should guide without controlling outcomes
“The trust comes first then the clarity will come later.”
Muslims should fulfill their responsibilities through guidance, love, correction, dua, and ihsan while entrusting outcomes to Allah through tawakkul, gratitude, and istighfar.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Introduces the story of Nuh in Surah Hud as a lesson about faith and parental heartbreak.
- Recounts Nuh calling his son to the ark and his son's refusal and drowning.
- Explains Nuh's appeal to Allah and his immediate acceptance, repentance, and submission.
- Connects Nuh's experience with the Prophet Muhammad's grief over Abu Talib and his son's death.
- Applies the lesson to parenting and hardship through tawakkul, gratitude, and seeking forgiveness.
- Concludes that parents guide and love without controlling outcomes, while children should heed caring correction and everyone should trust Allah before clarity arrives.
In the khateeb's words
“Hidayah is for Allah outcomes are for Allah responsibility is for us ihsan is for us”
“the eyes may shed tears and the hearts may become heavy but our tongues will never say anything that displeases Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
“our job is not control our job is to guide is to love is to correct is to make dua but most importantly is to trust Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
“the trust comes first then the clarity will come later and even if the clarity does not come in this life we still trust Allah like no other”
For the dinner table
The khutbah uses Nuh's painful experience with his son to teach that parents are responsible for guiding, loving, correcting, and praying for their children, but they cannot control the final outcome. We can feel grief and sadness without losing trust in Allah or saying what displeases Him. When life brings hardship, delay, loss, or confusion, we should strengthen our tawakkul, gratitude, and repentance. Sometimes understanding comes later, and sometimes it may not come in this life, but trusting Allah remains part of our identity as Muslims.
- What is one situation where you need to guide someone without trying to control them?
- How can we show grief while still keeping our words respectful to Allah?
- What does trusting Allah before having all the answers look like this week?
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