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Community & unityFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 5, 2026.

Pride and grudges weaken Muslim unity

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“Most of these personal disputes and grudges impact the society, the community, and even the structure of a family.”

The khateeb, at 4:11

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In one sentence

Muslims should patiently overcome pride, suspicion, envy, and grudges because internal animosity weakens faith, families, and community unity, while humility, tolerance, prayer, and disciplined speech restore spiritual strength.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Frames intra-Muslim animosity as a spiritual disease that weakens unity and courage.
  2. Explains that disputes drain communal strength and can leave religious practice without spiritual life.
  3. Connects grudges to missed forgiveness and urges reconciliation.
  4. Identifies pride, evil suspicion, and worldly comparison as roots of animosity.
  5. Recommends competing in goodness instead of status, wealth, or social recognition.
  6. Offers remedies: tolerate difficult people, learn from harm, pray for them, and restrain speech.
Try this week
Practice patience when disagreements arise, especially across intra-Muslim differences.
Replace negative assumptions with positive interpretations and avoid spying.
Compete in goodness, forgiveness, and service rather than status or recognition.
Keep appropriate contact with difficult people while learning from past harm.
Pray for people toward whom you feel envy or resentment.
Restrain the tongue from backbiting, slander, and repeatedly discussing grievances.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“But most of these personal disputes and grudges impact the society, the community, and even the structure of a family.”
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Play from 4:11
“Islam never encouraged to be naive. Islam encouraged to be smart, to be clever. A mu'min is smart, clever. Learn his lesson.”
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Play from 23:59
“But you keep in touch. You don't have grudges. But you remember. that now you have an understanding of this brother and of this sister that you didn't have.”
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Play from 24:57
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that grudges do more than hurt two people; they can weaken families, communities, and faith itself. Pride, suspicion, envy, and worldly comparison often feed these feelings. We are encouraged to be patient, forgive where possible, pray for people we resent, and compete in goodness instead of status. We should remain wise and learn from harmful experiences while refusing to let hatred control our speech or relationships.

  1. Where could we replace comparison with a chance to compete in goodness?
  2. How can we remember a lesson from someone’s hurtful behavior without holding a grudge?
  3. What can we do when talking about a problem starts making our anger grow?
Where it was given

The masjid

Metroplex Organization of Muslims in North Texas (MOMIN)2945 Frankford Rd, Dallas, TX 75287Jumu'ah "Jumma Salat", "12:15 PM To 3:00 PM"; "Days: Friday".ArchiveAll khutbahs at Metroplex Organization of28 khutbahs
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