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Hajj, Umrah & EidFrom the masjid's own video, Jun 25, 2026.

Hajj teaches us to defeat the ego

SNMC · Hesham Alaghbari

“The best of the few people who are in conflict is the one who initiates the salam.”

The khateeb, at 16:41

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In one sentence

The central claim of the khutbah is that Hajj trains the believer to defeat the ego through humility, equality, and non-retaliation, and this lesson must be carried into everyday conflicts and relationships.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Opening khutbah formulas and Quranic call to mindfulness of Allah.
  2. Context of Hajj and the Prophet's Farewell Pilgrimage (Hajjatul Wada).
  3. Hajj rituals strip away clothing, status, titles, and brand names to teach equality and devotion to Allah.
  4. Hajj teaches restraint from quarreling and retaliation, and humility before the vast congregation of pilgrims.
  5. Practical application: do not retaliate for personal wrongs, reject arrogance, initiate salaam, and mend family ties even when others cut them off.
  6. Closing dua and brief announcement for Sister Habiba Ibrahim.
Try this week
Do not retaliate when your own personal rights are violated; only respond when Allah's limits are crossed.
Recognize arrogance (kibr) as rejecting truth or looking down on people, and remove it from the heart.
Be the one to initiate salaam first when in conflict.
Maintain family ties even when relatives cut you off or reject you.
Forgive and look away when someone personally insults or wrongs you.
Use prayer, fasting, and Hajj spirituality to train the nafs and keep the ego in check.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 4Used to call listeners to mindfulness of Allah and warn against being deceived by the dunya or Shaytan.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“destroy your ego that little boy who is raised to avenge the killing of his death rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling him no don't do it for your ego don't do it for the ego of your people”
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“you wear the iram two pieces of white cloth no brand names no status no positions no titles nobody knows who you are you look exactly like everyone else”
SNMC · Nepean, ON
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“the best of the few people who are in conflict is the one who initiates the salam because this person has stepped over their own ego and made a practical move to bring the hearts together”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that one of Hajj’s greatest lessons is learning to defeat the ego. Hajj removes outward signs of status and reminds everyone that we are servants of Allah first. We are encouraged not to retaliate when personally offended, but to hold back for Allah’s sake. The khateeb also reminds us that humility means accepting truth, initiating salam, and repairing family relationships even when the other person is difficult. These everyday acts help purify our hearts and make us better believers.

  1. What is one time when holding back helped you avoid making a situation worse?
  2. What does being humble look like at school, at home, or with friends?
  3. How could you make peace with someone this week?
Where it was given

The masjid

South Nepean Muslim Community3020 Woodroffe Ave, Nepean, ON K2J 4G3Jumu'ah 12:00 PM & 1:15 PMKhateebHesham AlaghbariMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at SNMC58 khutbahs
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