Family & marriageFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 27, 2025.
Islam calls us to mend family ties
“The true maintainer is the one who reconciles ties when they are severed.”
In one sentence
Because the Qur'an is divine revelation and Islam calls believers to live by it, Muslims should preserve kinship ties, reconcile strained relationships, and remain steadfast in faith without isolating themselves.
The khutbah in 8 steps
- The first khutbah recounts the beginning and continuation of revelation to Muhammad, including the commands to read, warn, and proclaim.
- It explains that revelation came to earlier prophets too and that the Qur'an is Allah's word, a universal guidance and warning.
- It describes opposition to the prophets and Quraysh's rejection of the Qur'an, then emphasizes Muhammad's final and universal prophethood.
- The second khutbah defines kinship as maintaining, strengthening, helping, and showing kindness to blood relatives, linking it to Allah's mercy.
- Qur'anic verses and hadith warn against severing family ties and promise increased provision for those who uphold them.
- Yusuf's forgiveness and the hadith about reconnecting severed ties illustrate that kinship is more than reciprocating favors.
- The khutbah explains ghuraba as principled strangeness in Islam and distinguishes praiseworthy, blameworthy, and neutral forms.
- It urges believers to stay connected to family, guide and support them patiently, and avoid self-isolation or religious superiority.
Try this week
Actively associate with, help, and show kindness to blood relatives.
Initiate visits and gifts instead of merely reciprocating what others do.
Reconnect with relatives when ties have been severed, responding to harm with patience and good behavior.
Continue visiting and honoring relatives even when they challenge or misunderstand one's religious practice.
Teach, guide, support, and aid family members while avoiding self-isolation and religious superiority.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariThe beginning of revelation and the Prophet's experience after the interruption of revelation.
Surah 74Commands the Prophet to arise, warn, magnify Allah, purify his clothing, and shun idols.
Surah 4Establishes the continuity of revelation to Muhammad and earlier prophets.
Surah 7Presents the Qur'an as revealed guidance and a reminder to be followed.
Quran 4:36Places kindness to parents and relatives immediately after worshipping Allah alone.
Surah 13Praises those who join the ties Allah commanded and condemns those who sever them.
Quran 47:22-23Links turning away from Islam with corruption and cutting kinship ties, followed by divine curse.
Sahih al-BukhariUpholding kinship increases provision and extends life.
Quran 12:92Yusuf forgives his brothers, illustrating reconciliation instead of revenge.
Sahih al-BukhariThe true maintainer of kinship reconnects ties when others sever them.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Kinship is our Islamic way of maintaining and strengthening our families”
“This concept is a religious duty and severing these ties is considered one of the greatest sins in Islam”
“The maintainer of kinship Is not one who merely reciprocates The true maintainer Is the one who reconciles ties When they are severed”
“By being with them in this life By teaching them By guiding them By supporting them By aiding them By being kind to them”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminded us that the Qur'an is Allah's revelation, given to guide people through the Prophet Muhammad. It taught that Islam asks us to keep family ties strong by visiting, helping, forgiving, and reconnecting even when others have hurt us. Being faithful may sometimes make us feel like strangers, but that should not make us proud, harsh, or isolated from our relatives. We should guide and support our families with patience and kindness while asking Allah for mercy and steadfastness.
- How can we forgive someone without pretending that hurtful behavior was acceptable?
- When might standing firm in faith make someone feel like a stranger?
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