Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 11, 2026.
Gentleness is stronger than harsh speech
“What's the revenge? You make dua for them.”
In one sentence
The khutbah teaches that believers should replace harsh speech, ego, and retaliation with gentleness, forgiveness, consultation, reliance on Allah, and disciplined worship.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Defines Allah's mercy through gentleness, soft speech, love, and forgiveness.
- Warns that harsh speech, shouting, tongue-related harm, spying, and backbiting damage relationships.
- Connects ego, superiority, and a hard heart to Iblis's attitude toward Adam.
- Applies patience, silence, pardon, and prayer to anger and marital conflict.
- Encourages forgiving wrongdoers, praying for them, giving charity, and trusting Allah to soften hearts.
- Urges consultation before decisions, followed by tawakkul, and warns against excessive social-media use replacing worship.
Try this week
Lower your voice and control your tongue, especially when angry.
Pause and keep quiet instead of saying words you may later regret.
Pardon people who wrong you and make dua for them.
Recite Surah al-Ikhlas three times and give the reward to someone who mistreated you.
Give sadaqah while asking Allah to soften difficult relationships.
Consult trusted people before making important decisions, then rely on Allah.
Reduce social-media screen time, recite Surah al-Kahf on Friday, and spend time remembering Allah.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“we are hurting other people from our tongue because of our rude speech because of our tone”
“the second command of Allah you ask forgiveness for them if a person is rude to you you know what's the revenge you make dua for them”
“we need to disconnect with the creation and connect with the creator”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today's khutbah reminded us that Allah's mercy should make us gentle, loving, and forgiving people. Rude words, harsh tones, shouting, and backbiting can push people away and damage families. When someone treats us badly, we can pardon them, make dua for them, and ask Allah to soften hearts instead of answering harm with harm. We should also consult trusted people before making decisions and rely on Allah afterward. Finally, we can reduce phone and social-media time so we have more room for worship and remembrance.
- When is it hardest to lower your voice, and what could help you pause?
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