Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 31, 2026.
Anger must be controlled before it harms others
“Getting angry is not the problem. The problem is getting out of control.”
In one sentence
Anger is a natural human emotion, but believers must control it through restraint, silence, de-escalation, spiritual practice, and wise guidance to protect faith and relationships.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Explains that uncontrolled anger damages faith while acknowledging anger as part of human nature.
- Distinguishes true strength from physical dominance and praises swallowing anger and forgiving others.
- Offers anger-management practices: control the tongue, remain silent, change posture, and seek refuge from Satan.
- Condemns physical violence and connects uncontrolled anger, unrealistic expectations, and poor religious knowledge to marital breakdown.
- Advises avoiding talaq language in anger and consulting qualified scholars and wise mediators about divorce disputes.
- Encourages parents to keep children away from Halloween activities by providing wholesome alternatives.
Try this week
Control the tongue by avoiding profanity, cursing, and foul language.
Stay silent when angry.
If standing, sit down; if sitting, lie down to de-escalate.
Do not use the words talaq or divorce during disputes.
Consult qualified ulama or muftis before taking action on divorce.
Use wise, knowledgeable, well-intentioned mediators from both families for marital disputes.
Offer children wholesome alternative activities instead of Halloween participation.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The strong person is not the one who can beat the other one in a fight, in a wrestling match.”
“getting angry is not the problem. The problem is getting out of control.”
“If you get angry, stay silent. Adopt silence. This will help, inshallah.”
“In Islam, there is no place for domestic violence. A person who's engaged in this is not a good Muslim.”
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